Warrior Encounter with Darrell Tolbert

Josh (00:00:00) - My man. My, my.

Josh (00:00:03) - This is my boy, Daryl Tolbert. Dr. Tolbert from pretty boy to. To new name. Dr. Tolbert. Author. Speaker. Inspirational guy. He goes around and a minister. Right. There's a name change that happened. If you can look back at to one definitive point because you've spent some time behind bars, not voluntarily, like our friend Blaine. Involuntarily. If you could look back at one point a time, when did the name change? And it's not to Dr.. But there was a mindset change. But when was that if you could look back when was the mindset changed and the name change that God called on your heart that changed the trajectory of Darrell?

Darrell (00:00:55) - Yeah. Think this is funny? It was a guy named Mike. We called him dirty Red, but great basketball player and everything. And after had was locked up the second time, we started doing Bible study inside of the cell three times a day. And when he came in and he seen that I was doing Bible study and he's like, well, you know what, man? I can't call you Pretty Marty no more because you didn't change.

Darrell (00:01:22) - But remember, I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah, you can call me that. Because that was my identity, that that name carried weight. It was a famous name. It was a name I created. And and I was proud of it because it stood out. But after going to prison and really got into God, God took me back to that conversation there and realized that, hey, here's a new creation inside of me. That guy there, he has to die. When I left prison, I tell everybody I left the party in prison.

Josh (00:01:54) - You left Pretty Boy behind bars. Sometimes our false self can become something that's so attractive, right? The pretty boy walking around. Amen. High fives and people know you. And it could become this brand. This brand. Promise this excitement that. And then to kill that. To start over, you have to kill the old. Leave them behind bars. What was the hardest point of that?

Darrell (00:02:21) - It was the recognition that came with that because created that character had the gift to create individual because I'm a shy guy.

Darrell (00:02:29) - I operate behind different characters. So Pretty Boy with somebody created and I can operate behind even now, Facebook the preacher man, that's somebody create or the Iron Termite. Once again, these characters that I create and operate behind these characters because my nature is wanting to be shy. But if I can operate behind a character, then you know it's the character that they fall in love with. Not really me. It's this character. Yeah.

Josh (00:03:00) - There's a there's a few books that talk about this mask and this persona that we we start putting on a mask and people fall in love with a mask. And pretty boy, the termite, the preacher man. Right. Like these different masks that go beyond, you know, this thing. And people fall in love with the mask behind the mask. I'm very similar. People fall in love with the mask. And then, you know, you might get a lot of a common leads you might get or don't even say that word right, but you might get a lot of films, accolades, accolades.

Josh (00:03:28) - Right. You get popularity and lots of followers. But behind the mask, it feels lonely because they fall in love with the mask. What about the guy that behind the mask? What's the when? When does the mask fall away? And when do people get to really see who the real dealer Darrell Tolbert is?

Darrell (00:03:49) - I think when you when speak, they see the real guy in church. When church, just the real guy. I cry, you know, even in prison, they see the real guy when I come out, when I'm doing the work of God, you're going to see the real guy because the real guy going to come forth, he's you're going to see that this is Darrell Tauber. You know, the tears, the crying and everything. It's just these characters that operate out of Facebook and things, just more of. I think the way I deal with people. But when I take the stage, when I got a serious stuff with God, you don't see none of those guys side by side.

Josh (00:04:29) - Which is easier?

Josh (00:04:31) - Well.

Darrell (00:04:34) - A good question. I think it depends on what I'm doing.

Josh (00:04:40) - Does it get exhausting knowing which mask to put on with? Which place to put it on?

Darrell (00:04:46) - Not really, because I write skits too. So therefore I write books. So if you write books, you're an author, you write skits, you write the characters anyway, because these characters that you write. So for a person like me, it's easy because I create the characters, I write the books to tell them what goes in the books. Maybe somebody who doesn't have that gift. It's hard for them. But for a person like me, no, it's easy.

Josh (00:05:11) - Adventure.

Darrell (00:05:11) - Right?

Josh (00:05:13) - We're here at this conference. I sent you a text and you said yes, and you come. What was the thing that has been the most challenging for you? Sitting in the audience, taking notes, coming alive. You're hitting my leg. Like when certain things come up. What's what's been the most challenging topic that he talked about?

Darrell (00:05:31) - I wouldn't say challenging.

Darrell (00:05:32) - I would say eye opening, eye opening because I came here searching. I was disorientated, so that was the key reason why come I need to come and get orientated because I'm out of focus and sit here and listen to some things. The feedback that all you all gave me about where I am at this stage of my life, man, you can do a lot of great things, but I'm at that pivotal moment of, okay, God, I'm where the two streets me, where do I go? If I go left, do I go right? And some of the spiritual vices in my life, like my dad and my aunt, who always gave me a sense of direction when they died, it seemed like all of a sudden, now they're gone. These lights that used to guide me, I'm not gone. It's like after that, the last three years I had to find my own way. And when I hit these hard times, it's like, wow, I'm lost. That's why sometimes I hit a hard wall.

Darrell (00:06:25) - I go to my dad's grave. I know he can hear me, but I go out there and I cry because, man, I'm there. The the presence of his grave helps me and I cry. And once I leave, you know I feel better. But because I know that he was a guiding light, you know, and it's hard now, I got to orientate myself. But Jesus is always there. But it's hard sometimes. The switch from the physical to the spiritual because the spiritual is right there. He's a human. You can say Amen there. Trust God. He's going to be all right. Well, thank you, dad, and that's all I need. But when that's gone, you know, it's like, wow, for the first time in my life. I don't have a guy.

Josh (00:07:11) - That's tough. The next question I'm going to ask you, it's going to be tough.

Josh (00:07:14) - It's going to be tough because of time constraints, not because of any other reason. Hold my hand.

Josh (00:07:20) - There was a situation in this life, and you're writing a book right now, and I want to highlight this book that's coming out of you. One day you were shaking hands with the guy who killed your or you were. You were praying, holding hands and praying for the guy who killed your cousin. You got three minutes to tell the story in the book you're writing.

Darrell (00:07:38) - Um, the book is called forgave the two Men who vowed to kill me. Real life story. Killing one guy was real close. He set me up. That was betrayal. Hurt that he would be the one to do this. The other guy, jealous about the girl, come to a family gathering. Whole families out of kids running everywhere. Just open fire, killing my cousin standing beside me. She ran behind, killed her, killed right in front of me. Yeah, she ran behind me, took a bullets, paralyzed the girl in front of me. You know, for a long time, but like, 30 years ahead of myself.

Darrell (00:08:15) - Responsible. I think that's one of the reasons why accomplished so many things. God promised her that I'll live for the both of us. So now I'm out. I'm a minister. I'm doing good, serving God, doing all this stuff. But that weight was still there because that vowed to kill these people. And God open up opportunities at different times for me to meet these people. And that was rough, you know, and to meet them. And that was my God said, okay, I'm gonna set up an opportunity to see you out. You take it, you'll be free. If you don't. You're going to stay in bondage. And I took those both outs and freedmen. And like I told you to shake that God's hand was rough.

Josh (00:08:54) - So you're holding his hand. The guy who pulled with the same hand, he pulled the trigger and killed your cousin who you loved. Right? For all the guys out there who need a handshake and a prayer. Even though they did really bad things.

Josh (00:09:09) - We pray for them right now.

Josh (00:09:10) - Yes, without a doubt.

Darrell (00:09:11) - Lord God, in the name of Jesus father. Like the movie say, no man left behind. I know this like to be out there in those streets. Now that you would come and take me from the streets, I will not leave you all behind. I will come out there. I will go into prisons. Why? Because I know you have value. Just like I had value. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Josh (00:09:30) - Amen.

Josh (00:09:30) - Love you bro.

Darrell (00:09:32) - Bro.