April 25, 2022

The Responsibilities of Knight with Sir Brad Blazar


Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be a knight?  Perhaps there are some perks and what about responsibilities?  Well on this episode we have a conversation with a royal knight to learn about his story and get some advice from a knight

Brad Blazar is recognized globally as an expert when it comes to raising capital. At the young age of 23, he started and was the founder of a very successful company in the oil and gas industry. This was brought to an abrupt stop in the late 80's due to The Tax Reform Act and collapsing oil prices, but it was not about to slow him down. ​

Brad went on to find his true passion in life, raising money and helping people. He has raised billions of dollars in the last years for investment sponsors and those in real estate in addition to closing the largest sales for multiple companies. Now Brad consults to companies needing access to capital around the world.

Brad's premier coaching program Capital School has reached a global audience around the world.

 

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Transcript

Josh
 Hey, good day, fellows. Welcome to the uncensored advice for men. Show this show's for you guys. We've interviewed porn stars, pastors kind of everything in between that never the same person, which is weird, but we want to bring tough advice for you guys. I don't have all the answers. That's why I bring on guests to share their story, to share what they're working on. On today's show, we're having a conversation with a guy who does something similar and we want to hear his story, Brad, welcome to the show. 


 Sir Brad
 Thanks man. It's great to be here, Josh. 


 Josh
 Yeah, man. Actually I was absolutely corrected by my business partner just a few minutes ago. It's actually, sir. Brad, is that correct? 


 Sir Brad
 It is. The funny thing is I should have worn my t-shirt for ya. It's in the other room hanging up drawing, but I actually have a really cool t-shirt that we just made that has my night emoji. But it is sir Brad blazer. I was actually recently given the honor of a Royal title, sir, Brad blazer. It's based on honors and merit tied largely to philanthropy and some entrepreneurship things I've done over my career. Yeah, you're talking to a real Royal night. 


 Josh
 Nice. Do how to use the sword? 


 Sir Brad
 I got one actually here in my office do check this out. 


 Josh
 Let me see it. All right. For you guys in the podcast, just listening in, you're going to want to check out this YouTube. He has a, 


 Sir Brad
 This is what you get when you bow down to the prince and consci on the forehead, but you can actually see a whole of this way. You might be able to see us on the camera. I don't know, but it's engraved. It says the Royal order of Constantine, the great in St. Helen, which is the Royal order. Some of the other people that were knighted a couple of years ago, Toni Braxton, Paul Abdul, all part of the same Royal order and the difference between what I was knighted and a lot of what I call the b******t knightings is, a lot of people have heard about the Knights of Columbus or the Freemasons where they have ceremonies. Well, you know, you pay for that. This was a true Royal knighting, much like Anthony Hopkins, Richard Branson. The difference is the person that conducts the ceremony is given what they call the phone of honor or the funds on or on, which is a Latin term, which means he's actually been granted the authority tonight, other people through a sovereign nation. 


 Sir Brad
 It is recorded in the European court system. I have dual citizenship. It is a real Royal title, but it was really just an amazing experience because, I was contacted out of nowhere by a good friend of mine that went through the ceremony a few years ago. He was just so impressed with some of the cool things were doing when he came to my event as a speaker. Just out of the blue, he's like, I got a question for you. What would you have an interest in being knighted? Like I was, and I was just like, come on dude. He basically, took me through the, I guess the interview process and you do go through a selection process. You just don't get knighthood, but, and then it goes to the duke and then ultimately it goes to the prince and the prince lives over in Spain. 


 Sir Brad
 So it was pretty cool. Yeah, you're actually having a real Royal night on your show this afternoon. 


 Josh
 Holy moly. I mean that's well, yes, sir. What do you call it? 


 Sir Brad
 It is rich as Richard Branson is, but I do have the same title, sir. Brad blazer. 


 Josh
 Dads. Pretty cool. And Anthony Hopkins is sir Anthony, right? 


 Sir Brad
 Any Hopkins, correct. Course. You know people, no sir. Branson, sir, Elton John Anthony Hopkins. Of course, the ladies are referred to as ladies ordains depending on their age. And so it's been a real honor. We've used for philanthropy, largely where we, host events and we call up, different entities and say, sir, Brad blazer would like to use basically the Royal order to do a fundraiser. We bring in some of the other nights and some of the other bearings, a good friend of mine, actually duke bear Hart, who is from Austria. He now lives in Hawaii. He's coming here to Houston actually next week. We're going to get together and talk about doing a really cool event where we're going to actually get up people that are ousters. We're going to do the real, Royal jousting put on a huge big event here in Houston as a fundraiser, but it's just been a blast, just a great network of fellow entrepreneurs, people that have accomplished a lot in music and arts and medicine that are all part of this Royal order, because the prince that oversees this, he's got a couple of hundred nights, literally all over the world in different countries. 


 Josh
 Yeah. What are the roles responsibility now that you have, benighted, right. What are some of your new responsibilities that you're like, oh, I didn't know. I had to do that. Maybe what are some of the perks of being a Knight? 


 Sir Brad
 Well, I'll tell you the perk is you definitely get upgraded when you go to a hotel. You know, it was really interesting. I wasn't looking for this, but I'm a big Marriott guy. I made a reservation reasonably to stay at the Marriott, I just put in, serve Brad blazer and I didn't think anything of it. When I arrived, there at the check-in of course I already am a platinum rewards member. I usually, but she's like, oh sir, Brad blazer. I'm like, yeah, she's like, like Elton John, I'm like somewhat. She's like, dude, man, we got to give you like the Royal red carpet. And I get to my room. It was at the end of the hall, where they got the big double doors and, before you even go in, it's going to be a pretty nice suite cause you get the big double doors. 


 Sir Brad
 I was like, it's pretty nice being served by blazer, but that's just one aspect. I don't really think it's, heightened responsibilities or anything like that. I think really what you recognize when it happens is you really want to then kind of step up. As I say, lead a life of chivalry, when you look at what Knights were basically doing back in the old Renaissance is they were basically there to protect people. For me, it's really become more of a servant leader. It's like, what can I do more for other people? Really give back to others that need my help, need my knowledge, need my expertise. It also has just been, part of that Royal order now with some of the other nights or the Dukes, looking at things that we can do strategically as a team professionals and entrepreneurs really just empower and bring philanthropy, bring capital to organizations around the world that really need it the most. 


 Josh
 Do you have kids or a wife or a partner or something like that, do they call you, sir? 


 Sir Brad
 They don't. No, but my daughter, kind of, recognizes the fact that, her dad is a little different perhaps than the other fathers at school, but it's just been a really cool journey. There's actually another what they call investiture in June where they're knighting another 12 individuals. I've got a friend that I nominated. He's a two time Grammy award winning musical artist and show my wife and my daughter are going to be going out there with me. They were not able to come to the event that I was knighted out because my daughter had a dance competition. They're going to come out and kind of be a part of it and see the paparazzi and all the cool stuff that goes on. It's really cool because now that you're part of the Royal quote order, you have the ability of course, to make nominations and bring people in that you feel, could benefit the organization. 


 Sir Brad
 It's been a wild ride if you will, as it relates to the recognition and just to be able to associate myself alongside entrepreneurs that are just, I believe at a level just so far ahead of where I am, but it really just kind of sets the sites as it relates to, if they can do it, I can do it. More importantly, the power of a mastermind, it's getting in the room and getting proximity to people that have the knowledge, but more importantly also want to see you become successful and support you and encourage you and give you the tools and the introductions you need to make those things happen in your life as well. 


 Josh
 There any weird stuff that goes on, right? So, like you, you talked about, the b******t nights out there, you, people pay to play in such like that. Like this is something I grew up on a construction site, Brad. So like server, I'm sorry. I have no clue. I've been to, I've been to the Royal palace, but I was, in the crowd looking out, I have no clue, what's it like, is it, when you get behind the scene, when you see what the people are doing, I, what's the real mission? Why are they doing this? And why did you say yes, 


 Sir Brad
 I think really it's the philanthropy and it's the goodness in what we're trying to accomplish really as an organization, ? When you think about philanthropy and you think about, kind of creating a legacy and how you're going to be remembered, you can only do so much as an individual, but when you have a group of people that collectively come together for a common cause that's really where the big change comes. The other thing of course is really just more the relationships that come by being part of that organization. I now have networked with some pretty amazing, powerful people and the ability to, out, to connect and to be introduced to those people, should I have a desire to do so at a point in time, it really just kind of elevates you and it connects you to a whole new group of, celebrities, entertainers, entrepreneurs that you otherwise probably would not have had access to. 


 Sir Brad
 I think for me really is I've always had the desire to help others. People that know me at the heart really just know that I'm just overly generous. Really when I heard kind of the mission and some of the things that they were wanting to do and get behind, that's what really attracted me to move forward. Yes. 


 Josh
 Yeah. As you're building this, right, like I just pulled up your website, the $2 billion man Capitol con and Capitol school, and sir, Brad, and all this, all this stuff like, before we hit record, you said, Josh, we're building something for men and we see this and like you've spent more time talking about, and just in our short time together about philanthropy, about impact, about giving, about dudes and men out there, like, why don't you w what's going on? Like, we'll talk business one day, what's going on this men's side, on this impact side. Cause that's got my curiosity. That's why we're on this show together. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. I, I think that men in general, just the way we're raised are raised to be, courageous and kind of, to some extent be protective, of our families. In a lot of times, we don't really reveal our true feelings or the concerns we have or the problems we have to others, whether it's just to our immediate families where, the biggest reason a lot of couples end up in divorce is there's just no communication. The guy's failing a business and he hadn't even shared that with his wife or, the struggles. I think that what men really need is the support of other men. And, like I shared with you earlier, a good friend of mine and I were getting together to host live events and promote this basically to our networks and anybody that wants to come called real men real confessions. It's just coming in for a two day event where we all open up and get vulnerable and start really just seeking the advice of others, almost like, alcoholics anonymous. 


 Sir Brad
 I see so many guys that are so successful and so driven in their business that they've allowed other areas of their life to be sacrificed. They're in poor health, they're overweight, they got a crappy relationships. You look at, what I call having balance in life, I don't know if you've read the book, the seven habits of highly effective people, my cubby, but he talks about this thing in the book. That's really brilliant called the whole person theory. It's basically four elements. It's your mind, your spirit, your body, and your soul. If you're lacking in your weak, in one area of your life's going to Schaeffer. I think that the whole idea about your podcast and about what we're doing is really to get guys to open up and realize it's okay to be vulnerable. It's okay to cry in the presence of other men. I mean, I've got a good friend that basically tried to commit suicide. 


 Sir Brad
 I never knew this about him. I said, dude, when you're on stage as a keynote speaker, like you need to pull up your shirt and show the audience, your scars, this guy's got a scar right down the center of his chest, where he shot himself and they had to go in. Of course today he's a very successful entrepreneur running a seven figure business, but that shows the lowest low of like this guy's wife. I mean, the guy tried to commit suicide, unlike your audience needs to see the low the vulnerability, because they can all relate to that s**t. We've all been low. You know, we've all suffered. What most people see is just, the iceberg, they see you with the Rolex or they see in the nice house, they don't realize all the grit and all the crap and all the sleepless nights that you've gone through and the struggles to get where you are today. 


 Sir Brad
 So, I think that there's a lot of vulnerability that men just don't show nor reveal. I think that really, recognizing that vulnerability and opening up, that's where the real growth comes. That's where the real help comes. That's where a guy can put his arm on your shoulder and say, Hey, Josh, I've been there too, man. I don't share this with people, but I was at a real low point in my career or my life, let me empathize with you. More importantly, let me help you get through this. You've got the support of me and all of these other fellows that are here today, here for the next couple days and reach out if you need anything time thing. 


 Josh
 That's super cool what you're building. I keep on wanting to go, Brad, do I call you Brad or serve bread or serve blazer? Do I freaking call you? 


 Sir Brad
 No, they pretty much anything you want. I respond to ass all, whatever Brad swine. Yes, 


 Josh
 Sir. A*****e. That is. 


 Sir Brad
 Brad, the benches fine. 


 Josh
 That's awesome. What I find is, and this has been, I'm a master of wearing a mask, right? Like I I'm really good trained by my dad who was the best at that. I'm pretty darn good. I carry the torch. Now that he's gone. Right. Pretty good at wearing a mask. I find the only freedom from wearing a mask, which you don't create authentic relationships. You don't, people don't know you and you can't ask for help is to go the opposite direction. Obit, Komono open up your, your shirt to drop your drawers on a cold wet day and go, I could stand here naked unashamed without guilt, without fear without one. This is who I am. That's what I found is freedom. I'll tell you for guys to get there. I'm getting there because I was dragged through the ringer by force, through bankruptcy, through public failures. 


 Josh
 A lot of guys I'd find I was forced into it. So then I just embraced it. I find a lot of guys go, I'll share my story when I'm on the other side of it. Do you see that? Right? When I get through my divorce from my alcoholic or my this or that, then I'll help other guys, or then I'll share that. Do you find that when w in your own life or with other things that you've seen? 


 Sir Brad
 Well, I agree to a large extent that there are plenty of guys out there that are wearing a mask, or, they're trying to quote fake it till they make it. I mean, you see it all the time. Guys that post s**t on the internet, Hey, they're driving a Lambo and then you go to their house and they got a Yugo or a Hyundai in the driveway. But, I think there's that superficial desire that we all have to be as wildly successful in anything we do in life. It's the vulnerability to basically just look at where you are and recognize that, you're going to get there eventually by putting in the effort, by showing up every day and, doing the hard work. I think that, the ability to really, to help other people comes from something that I call two things. Number one, demonstrated capacity. You have to have a demonstrated capacity in whatever it is you're doing, trying to help people, because if you haven't done it for a long period of time where you haven't done it so that you can convince others, you're capable of teaching them how to do it just don't even try because people will figure you out sooner or later. 


 Sir Brad
 And then basically it's all over. So you've got to have what I call that demonstrated capacity to basically teach other people, show other people, help people get through it, whatever. The second thing, which I think is more important is, over my career, I've raised over $2 billion. That is a ton of money, and I've done it through my efforts. Of course, the efforts of teams I've led, as the president of divisions for large real estate syndicators or whatever. It's because of that I now have a deep seated conviction that allows me to get on stages that allows me to get on podcasts. That allows me to, do capital school, where we have students today in about 12 countries around the world. It's the conviction that I have in here and the desire where I'm so convicted that I want to help others. I think that for a lot of guys, they just lack that conviction. 


 Sir Brad
 It's like, I want to help people, but I'm not really convicted to doing it. It's the showing up every day, it's putting up with all the crap and all the b******t. When you have quote, what I call that deep seated conviction that I think is the big thing that moves the needle, 


 Josh
 What causes, what forces a deep seated conviction in a man. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. You know, its purpose. There's a wonderful book out there called grit that a friend of mine wrote Matt Minero. Matt is in Dallas, Texas, just a phenomenal businessman. And he said, here's the problem. Most people have no idea why they do what they do in life. You said, you show up every day, either you get a job, you're collecting a paycheck and you think you do what you do every day because you have to, you don't have to do s**t. He shared a story when he was on stage speaking at an event, and it just changed my whole perspective of the way I looked at myself, the way I looked at my wife and why I was doing what I was doing every day. Basically the story, just kind of a condensed version very quickly as it was right before the holidays, his sister-in-law came over to the house with her husband and their kids. 


 Sir Brad
 And the ladies went into the kitchen. The men went upstairs. They were watching the Dallas Cowboys game and his brother-in-law fell asleep on the couch. Right in the middle of the fourth quarter, his brother jumped out of the couch, grab Matt on the arm was startled. Matt of course was startling. So you okay, bro? You said, yeah, I think so. Matt said, he looked at me with a stare. I'll never forget. He said, can I share something with you? He said, yeah. He said, I want to let you know that I've got cancer matches like, oh man, like, like how bad he's like, it's pretty bad. Matt. Stage four, the doctors had given me about six to eight months. Naturally Matt said, well, what is Susie say, Susie is the wife. Most of you can guess what the answer was. I haven't told him. He doesn't even know. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. This guy is trying to protect his family. He looked at Matt and he said, man, I f****d up my life. We don't have any insurance. I don't know how to break the news store. Literally, Matt forced him to go downstairs. For the first time share with his wife, that he was dying of terminal cancer. As we can imagine on this podcast, every emotion we experience as humans came out, the hugging, the kissing, the crying, the tears, et cetera. And it wasn't even six months Josh. It was three, there was a funeral. They said their goodbyes. But here's the key. Two days later, Matt's wife cookie came downstairs and he could tell upstairs that she'd been crying. Cause her face was all red. You know, her eyes were all moisture. Mascara is running. He said, what's wrong. She just said, man, I been thinking about my sister. 


 Sir Brad
 You heard what he said, Matt, they're not like us. They don't have insurance. I mean, she's gonna have the shell of the house I have visions are for getting on welfare. Getting two jobs to support the kids, what's going to happen. That just smiled and said, sometimes God has a way of intervening in people's lives. It'll be all right that night, he called the sister-in-law and he invited them over for dinner. That weekend, the barbecue kids were playing in the pool. When they were hugging and saying goodbyes, he opened up the lapel to his jacket and he handed her a card. Inside the car, there was something special. She looked at him and said, I can't take this. She said, oh yes, you can. You will because your family, he said, I am the insurance policy that your husband never had that his purpose. He said, how many of you want to be like rich uncle Matt? 


 Sir Brad
 Every hand in the room went up. He said, when you can put yourself in people's lives at that level, now, why you do what you do every day. I just said, s**t, what a powerful message. And everybody's like, just tearing up. You hear that story. When I'm on stage alone, I brought audiences of a thousand people to tears because it is such an emotional story, but that's purpose, ? When you understand that you're saving and you're racking and stacking, and that you're trying to create wealth to be that strong shoulder to your siblings or to other members of your family. Dude, that gets me just choked up. More importantly, it gets me fired up every single day. 


 Josh
 Yeah, dude, you suck, man. You made my eyes leak on my show, man. 


 Sir Brad
 It's real, my friend, Darren Miller, if you Google this guy, Darren Miller, who was the first person that ever swam all seven swims making up the ocean seven, these are the seven longest swims around the world. He's now 150 mile endurance runner. I said, how in the hell do you jump in the ocean and swim like 20 miles? He said its purpose. He said, every time I turn my head to take a breath, I saw a boat of all the people I know that had died of cancer. Every mile I swam, I was getting pledges and I was raising money for my purpose. I said, man, what a great story. So, I think that most of us go through life, not really knowing why we show up every day to do what it is we do. We just think we have to. When you attach a purpose or meaning to it changes what you do. 


 Sir Brad
 It changes your outlook. For example, every book I have, I've got three books. You open the cover. It says a portion of the author's proceeds go to MD Anderson for cancer research. So, you know, again, it's that philanthropy. When I speak and of course, the coaching revenue. So, if you have a purpose in life, whether it's family, whether it's, philanthropy, where you want to put your name on the side of the building at some point in your life where you've donated a million dollars, when you show up with that conviction and that purpose people start to take you more seriously. More importantly, you're willing to work through the hardship. You're willing to put up with all the crap because at the other end of that is the purpose you're trying to serve, which is much greater than you. 


 Josh
 Yeah. Guys like me and I'd love your advice on this. You're in your thoughts on this guys like me, this in this story, I want to be the uncle, Matt being the strong soul shoulder. What I find is to be the strong shoulder. You first have to experience it. You have to, I don't believe there's anything. Self-made right there. Anybody who says they're self-made I, I would challenge them. I'd love them nonjudgmental, but I'd be like, you're full of s**t. Nobody is self-made there's always something other people lifting you up. Before you can be the strong shoulder, you have to experience what strong shoulders from the receiving end. Correct. Have you experienced that or is that your thought on this. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. To some extent I have, in my life, just like in Robert Kiyosaki's I had a rich uncle. So, he talks about rich dad, poor dad in my life. There was an uncle Henry was a extremely wealthy. At one point he owned the Palm beach country club and he gave $10 million to the Albert Einstein school of medicine. His name is now on the side of the building, the Kalman cancer research center. But, he gave every year to my parents, of money to put myself and my siblings basically through school. Why? Because he never had more than a sixth grade education. The one thing that he valued more than anything in life was an education. To see what he did largely impacted me in a very positive way. You know? I mean, I remember stories of this guy, literally giving money to the son of the guy that's shined his shoes because the guy shining his shoes was in his seventies. 


 Sir Brad
 My uncle said, well, what the hell are you doing at 70 shining shoes? You know, you should be at home. He's like, no, man, I'm shining shoes to say money to help put my kids through medical school. Oh, your son wants to be a doctor. Does I'd love to meet him one day. This guy shiny, my uncle shoes had no idea. He was worth millions of dollars. My son met the kid and he said, are you a good student? Yeah. Straight A's, you know, valedictorian. He said, great. I'm going to give you a full ride scholarship to become a physician. Your dad can stay home and quit working because you shouldn't be working at his age, finance. This whole education never asked for anything in return. When the kid graduated, of course, he repaid him back over a period of years. I saw that philanthropic bent through my uncle, but I also realized he was largely the shoulder that Matt was in the story I shared. 


 Sir Brad
 Why? Because he was helping my parents finance my college education, as well as the education of all of my siblings. He was the shoulder. He was the rock in the family. If anybody had an issue or had a problem financially, we all knew we could turn to uncle Henry. I think having seen that, but then again, having here once again from the stage, really for me, kind of gave me that anchor and that conviction in that purpose that has allowed me to do a lot of the cool things that I do today. It's probably one of the reasons that I was, recognized and, promoted up to the honor becoming knighted because one of the eight merits they look for is philanthropy. 


 Josh
 Yeah, you are cool, man. 


 Sir Brad
 I. 


 Josh
 Would love that man. I, I used to live in Dallas, Texas the. 


 Sir Brad
 Highway. 


 Josh
 Yeah. We live, we live in Florida. Now the great country of Florida. There's two great countries in the U S right now, Korea, Texas, and Florida. 


 Sir Brad
 There is absolutely no state income tax, affordable housing friendly people. Great. Whether I agree, brother. Hello? 


 Josh
 Yeah. My daughters, I have three kids, Lily Zeke, and had a Zeke was born in Dallas, Texas. We lived there for a few years, so I have a Texan and we lived in Dallas, Texas. Great people. Great food, great drinks. Awesome. It's a little warm, but awesome people. Yep. Awesome. Awesome. Awesome. Yeah. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. No, absolutely. I totally agree. And I do get down to Florida quite regularly. Of course, a lot of events take place down there. Knowing that you're there, that the next night I come down to speak or just to vacation that we'll definitely look up. Okay. 


 Josh
 Yeah, definitely. As you're doing this man, so we talk about deep seated convictions. What are some of yours and have you ever been wrong about your convictions? Like you're like, Ooh, maybe need to adjust that. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. You know, I make decisions pretty quickly. Usually when I look at doing something, the first thing I asked myself is like, what's the worst case scenario? Can I get killed if I lose money? How much money am I going to lose? Can I afford to lose it if it's an investment, but I'm not one of these guys really to quote waiver in dilly-dally, I know some people that do that, I'm pretty much just, make decisions pretty quickly. Usually it is quote, just kind of that conviction, that gut feeling. I've been wrong many times, wrong on people where people have screwed me and, I, I thought I could trust them. I think we've all experienced that where you just basically get screwed and the relationship is tarnished and we see that over and over again. You think people are your friends and they're really not. 


 Sir Brad
 I've seen it in business where I've invested in other people. I brought people on as employees at our company and they've just let me down greatly. I think we all quote go through them, but as it comes to quote my own convictions, there certainly are things that I'm working on because I realize I'm not perfect by any strength of measure, but it really is, trying to find what I would call that balance where, I'm happy with my life. I don't really have any baggage issues, but I think that, really the thing that we all have to do at the end of the day, like you said, is get on that kimono and expose ourselves first to our self. Of course, to the rest of the people that we love and care. One of the big things that really is impacted my life, and I actually have heard this now, not just from one great coach or speaker, but now from many is the toughest sale you ever have to make in life is the sale to yourself. 


 Sir Brad
 It's understanding that, if you want positive change, because here's my belief, Josh, everybody in life wants more. We want more abundance. We want better health. We all have the desire for more, but getting more requires effort. That's why most people are not wildly successful. That's why we have so much discontent in our world. That's why, if you look at the statistics, 67 people that have a job, have one foot out the door cause they hate what they do for a living. You become honest and true to yourself, by looking at yourself in the mirror, you have to sell yourself. What you have to do basically largely is say, I forgive myself for allowing me to get to the point in life I'm currently at. Maybe you're overweight. Maybe you're broke as s**t. You're just one step away from filing for bankruptcy. You have to essentially forget the past because you can't change. 


 Sir Brad
 What's behind you. What you can most definitely do is change what's in front of you. Once you sell yourself on that quote, idea of change, whatever it is, and then you start putting in the habits and you start showing up regularly to bring about that positive change with, I mean, some real effort and some real action behind it. That's where the growth starts to take place. But here's the secret. Seeing monumental change in your life does not happen overnight. We live in a society today where everybody expects everything like tomorrow, right? Cause we got credit cards. We can finance and buy the s**t we can't even afford. Oh s**t. Just put it on credit cards. I'll pay it off over the next 10 years. Right. But you know, change takes time. My good friend, Ken Joslyn down in Atlanta calls it incremental efforts. It's like working out. 


 Sir Brad
 If you want a six pack, you can get one. If you start jogging three to six miles a day, you aint going to see one in a week. You ain't going to see one in a month, but you wake up 90 days from now. If you've been doing it loosely and you pull up your shirt, you're like, holy crap, I've lost 20 pounds. I now see the making of a six pack. It's the small efforts that incrementally over time create dramatic results, just like compound interest does with wealth building. It's the small things you do daily that have a compounding effect over time that give you those dramatic results in life. I mean, heck when I started speaking and coaching, if you told me I'd be sharing the stages alongside people like boxing, legend, Floyd Mayweather, and Jesse Itzler and John Maxwell and Brandon Dawson and Sharon Lechter and all these, I would have laughed at you. 


 Sir Brad
 Like there's no way in hell, but it's just the showing up there every day, getting better, practicing my speaking and getting out there and expanding the coaching that gives me the credibility where I'm getting calls and I'm getting invited to do some pretty cool, amazing things. The funny thing is it all starts with, like I said, selling yourself first on what you really want and then having the conviction to stick to that decision and pursue that unrelentlessly because most people give up, they fall off the bus. Why? Because it's hard work being successful. It's a lot easier to go back and retreat to where you work, which is where you're safe. Because change in growth is getting outside of your comfort zone. You've got to start doing the s**t that scares you the most. 


 Josh
 What scares you the most. 


 Sir Brad
 At this point? Really nothing other than hopping in the ocean, swimming with great white sharks. 


 Sir Brad
 And. 


 Sir Brad
 I say that though, because I've done a lot as an entrepreneur. As an example, I started doing my event capital con last year, which was our first event decided, Hey, I'm going to do an event. I had no idea how to do an event. Never done one before. I'm like, I got to get some big ass speakers, on my panel so that when I put my banners out there and start promoting it, people want to buy tickets. I was introduced to up Kevin Harrington through somebody. I think it's a mutual contact of ours. Dave Seymour, 


 Josh
 Shout out to Dave. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. And of course, if you look at Dave's, website for freedom ventures, you see Kevin Harrington, I loosely associated there, but I said, Hey, can you introduce me to Kevin? He was like, oh yeah. He introduced me to Kevin Harrington and got on a call and then eventually met Seth green, who was on their podcast, the shock preneurs, great guys. But I talked to Kevin. I said, man, I'm doing this big event. Here's what I do. I teach people how to raise money. I want you to be a keynote because who better to learn how to pitch investors than quote, one of the sharks on his TV show, you don't lost you. He said, with COVID, I just feel real uncomfortable. He said, my speaking fees, normally this I'll do it for that. I'm like done deal hop the phone. I like $17,500 in the whole Hansel, the ticket that scared me because there's other speakers, there's food, there's a room and board. 


 Sir Brad
 I'm starting to realize this damn, event's going to be like a six figure deal, ? That's scary because you can lose a lot of money. The idea came to me, get sponsors and give them tables and charge these big companies like 10 to 20 grand to have a sponsorship presence, get the revenue from that. The ticket sales hopefully will allow you to break even, or hopefully make a small profit. But that was scary. Same thing last year is I told my wife that when I started traveling to these really cool, great events, I'm going to go on a private jet. She looked at me like we don't own a jet and I'm like, we will someday, but I'm going to go charter a jet and fly there and go and style. Why not? I started calling around and to fly from Houston to Miami round trip on a private jet. 


 Sir Brad
 Citation three was about 27,000 at years. Here's my deposit. My wife is like, you could go on United for like 300. Why are you spending close to 30 grand? I said, well, number one, because I can afford you. What I did is I then sold the other seats on the jet to other entrepreneurs that said, Hey, you want to go to a b******g event and meet Floyd Mayweather. Brandon Dawson had the experience of a lifetime. Essentially. I ended up flying for free. The funny thing is you do the stuff that scares you and you commit. I think what happens once you do that is you force yourself to adapt and come up with solutions to the things that scare you the most. Once you do it, your confidence level just shoots through the roof. Like, man, that scared the s**t out of me, but I pulled it off. 


 Sir Brad
 I didn't lose my shirt or I was able to do it. Like what can I not do now as an entrepreneur? So, there's a lot of big things we're going to be launching and doing this year in our brand that scare the pants off mate, but we're going to get committed and we're going to do it. It's really because I know that by committing first, I'll figure it out later, if you don't do the things that scare you have regret. I learned this from one of my personal business coaches. I don't want to be a 95 year old dude sitting in my nursing home saying, man, I regret that I never did that. I would, I should have, could have, because I had so much more potential in my life. If I had just done it, there's no telling what I could have become, ? 


 Sir Brad
 You adopt that mentality of not wanting to be down the road many years later, regretting the fact that you did not do a lot of the things that you wanted to do in life, man, you just gotta do it. It's like Nike slogan. It's right on the side of the f*****g shoe and it's on all their boxes. Just do it. 


 Josh
 Yeah. 


 Sir Brad
 You know, 


 Josh
 That is so cool, man. I totally want to come to one of your events and hanging out with that. 


 Sir Brad
 We'll get you on stage and a, a you over the head with that sword. 


 Josh
 There you go. Awesome. Awesome. Hey, I've got a deck of cards that have questions on it. Sometimes it throws some randomness into our conversations. Tell me when to stop. 


 Sir Brad
 Go ahead. Right there. 


 Josh
 All right. This is your card buddy. 


 Sir Brad
 That's. 


 Josh
 It all right. If every human came with a warning label, what would your warning label say? Okay. 


 Sir Brad
 Every human came with a warning label. What would my warning label say, man, that's a good one. I got to give some pause to that. Okay. 


 Josh
 While you're thinking of that. Yeah. 


 Sir Brad
 I'd say, probably get out of my way because I'm right through. Yeah. It's , you go to Bradley's office Lightspeed, he's got a big old rhino and he loves rhinos and it's because rhinos are unstoppable. I think largely it's the same for me. If I had a warning label, that'd be like, get the hell out of my way. Cause I'm going to run right through ya because I know where I'm going. I know what we want to build. One of the things that I've learned by being around the biggest thought leaders and sharing stages with these guys is they don't listen to the noise. I think that we all get affected by what we perceive to be the opinions of other people. I found that people are scared as most in life. The opinions of others that they really care about. Like if I do this and I fail, holy s**t, what will my siblings? 


 Sir Brad
 Or what will my mom and dad think about me? You know? You never take action on those things that you want to do most in life because you're so concerned about the opinion of others. Once I started getting recognized as a thought leader and as a public figure, you get all the naysayers, you get all the f*****g haters on Facebook and Instagram. For the first couple of months, that s**t really affected me, man. I was responding back. I'm sorry, Josh. You know that you feel that way. Maybe you should pull your head out of your ass and buy some books. You start realizing that s**t happens to ed. My lip. That s**t happens to the best I'm sure Tony Robbins has haters and naysayers. I just realized, man, I've just got to start listening to me and not really caring so much about the thoughts of other people. 


 Sir Brad
 Once you understand how to quote master your mind, it's really powerful because we start recognizing that there will always be naysayers. See, so many people create a life for themselves based on what was expected of them by other people your parents said, you should go to school, graduate, get a job and create a career. That's what largely 99.9% of the people do. They go to school, they get a job. They become a doctor, an attorney, a CPA or whatever it is that do. They're very unhappy and disgruntled with their life because they're living a life that somebody else essentially created for them. Right? Once you look at what you really want to do, man, pursue it with the passion, man, I just want to smoke for 20 on the beach and f*****g Hawaii was sand between my toes, drinking coconut milk every day, scuba diving, do it. 


 Sir Brad
 Don't care about what other people think. You're going to be much happier with your life. Maybe you can craft a business around of it and take people scuba dive. We have to go out and get that nice 36 foot catamaran. Now you're living your dream passionate about what you're doing. So, I see so many people, friends, people that I meet at events I go to and they're like, man, I want to do like what you do. Well, then do it, dude. There's no reason you can't. 


 Josh
 Yeah. You, one of the fears that guys have me included like super naked hair, I love and I have a high need for people's approval and validation approval. Good job, Josh. You're freaking awesome. Right. I, and I know that and as I've worked coaches and counselors and therapists, like what I'm learning is if I got that from God. If I had that from myself, between myself and God and from me to me, I don't need it from anybody else. 


 Sir Brad
 Right. Exactly. 


 Josh
 Here's what I started to learn is I feel bad for the dude that I was constantly seeking someone to go, Hey, good job, Josh. Right? Like, like a dog with a bone. I I'm starting to, I have empathy for dudes who have no enemies. I feel, I feel I have empathy for guys who have no naysayers because they're just playing it safe And they're not chasing their dreams, their goals, their conviction, they live without it. And I feel for them, 


 Sir Brad
 You want to, you want to be that controversial dude, for sure. I mean, you look at Gary V to either love them or you f*****g hate them. You look at Bradley, you either love Brad or you hate them. They recognize the fact that they speak their mind. They don't give a s**t what you think, because they're so secure in themselves that like you just said, they've looked at themselves in the mirror and they said, I know who I am. I'm grounded in me. I don't give a s**t what you think. I don't care what your opinions are. You just go up every day with that attitude. That's pretty damn powerful. I was exactly like you for many years, ? What I learned from one of my good friends, who's now a coach is the world will validate you by loving and embracing you and rewarding you basically at the highest level. 


 Sir Brad
 When, what, when they start buying your books, when they start listening to your podcast, when they start asking for your autographs or when you show up at an event and everyone's running up, oh my God, can I get my picture with you? The world largely will reward you based on how much you give to the world. That's why I think you want to have quote that chivalry, that servant leader mentality and stop worrying about you and start hearing about others. That's the, what I call the law of attraction or the secret in the book, the secret it's, once you start centering you on, how can I help you rather than what can you do for me? People's attitude towards you just change, in their belief in you and what you stand for, just changes. It's really something that just doesn't happen overnight. It happens by getting in proximity to other people that have recognized that then can then share that with you. 


 Sir Brad
 More importantly, it's you got to start putting that into perspective and started napping it into the things that you're doing, where you're really no longer care about the money. The money is just a byproduct of what you do every day by helping other people, through your efforts and showing up and the show that you do. It's sharing that knowledge. 


 Josh
 Yeah, dude, super cool. 


 Josh
 As we're, as we're rounding out, I want to play game. All right. I've never done this before. I'm pulling it out of my bastard . Yeah. W I've never had a conversation with the Knights. We're going to create a top list. I'm going to fire questions at you. You got to answer them as quickly as you can. A top list of things of a night. Okay. You ready? Favorite song? 


 Sir Brad
 Favorite song is geez. That's a tough one. 


 Josh
 You can always say pass, but you could only pass twice. That's the new rule. Okay. Favorite movie? 


 Sir Brad
 Favorite movies. Wolf of wall street. 


 Josh
 So good. Jordan. Barfoot sold this pen. A favorite piece of technology that you use on a day-to-day basis. 


 Sir Brad
 Oh, it definitely has to be the cell phone. 


 Josh
 Okay. Favorite book? 


 Sir Brad
 Favorite book is I've got a couple, but one of them of course, think and grow rich. The other one of course would be a Richard had board ed. 


 Josh
 Favorite vehicle of all time. If you could get it in your driveway, what would it be? 


 Sir Brad
 Koenig's work. 


 Josh
 What? 


 Sir Brad
 Koenigsberg. 


 Josh
 I have no clue. What the hell? 


 Sir Brad
 You know what a Koenigsberg. I mean, everyone wants the Lambo. Everybody wants Roy Google, that Koenig's work. K O E N I double G S B E R G a Koenigsberg is about a one and a half to $2 million super car that blows the doors off. The other side just mentioned, 


 Josh
 I got a Dodge Ram diesel. I grew up on a construction site, bro. 


 Sir Brad
 And I've had the Porsches. I've had the Jack had the BMW. You put a Konigsberg in my driveway. I'm going to be one happy camper. That's what, that's what I'm working. 


 Josh
 Favorite? Article of clothing or accessory. 


 Sir Brad
 Oh, do it on the cuff link guy. 


 Josh
 Really. 


 Sir Brad
 Watches. Yeah. 


 Josh
 What's your favorite coupling? 


 Sir Brad
 I've got a couple of cufflinks. I've got one. That's really cool. That's a, a skull. I've got another one that I really loved basically that say a shark, but I'm a number. The cufflink guy loved French cuffs, love cufflinks. And also of course, watches. 


 Josh
 Sweet. Alright. You can hang out with anybody in history, dead or alive. You get to have coffee with them. Obviously they're back to life. If they're dead, right? You could have an hour coffee, just you and that person. Who's that person. 


 Sir Brad
 Being Napoleon hill. 


 Josh
 Super cool. Last question. You get to see any artists live or dead and you get a, a private front row, concert. Who would it be? 


 Sir Brad
 You know, that's tough. Everybody always says, God, you got to see Elvis, probably be, Elvis, but I, I mean, I love so many musical artists, Phil Collins is great, of course, Elton John's great. They've made movies out of Freddie mercury. I'd probably say it's either Freddie mercury at queen. I considered them probably one of the best vocalists that's ever graced the stage. You gotta go with Elvis, man. I mean, come on. That guy changed or basically, brown, James Brown. Yeah. That guy, that guy worked his ass off. He was one of the hardest working guys and showbiz. 


 Josh
 Super cool. Super cool. What question should I have asked you during this interview that I completely screwed up and didn't ask you. 


 Sir Brad
 What I stayed up and put on my kimono. Maybe we need to start a new show and call it the nudists podcasts every f*****g night. Bare chested. They don't play this guy. Yeah, there you go. We just sit there, expose ourselves, maybe we're onto something though. Josh, maybe that's what we do. I mean, a lot of podcasts, of course they do show the video and maybe come up with a pretty cool name, totally exposed. Tell your guest before they show up, dude, you gotta be shirtless from the waist up. I don't care how big and heavy you are, but you're going to be totally exposed. It'd be a top rate show for sure. 


 Josh
 I have interviewed top pornstar. They would probably be like, yeah, sure. Note that. So come into my work outfit. 


 Sir Brad
 No dude. He's asking to be like Howard stern, X rated podcasts. 


 Josh
 My wife would love that. 


 Sir Brad
 No, I mean, I think we really covered a lot and I've just had a blast. I mean, you're a great guy. You're, you're a great host, like I said, for all of the listeners here, because I think like you said in, like we've kind of discussed, men have masks and you really have to realize that you're doing a disservice to the people that you love, spend time with your kids, really focus on the relationships you have with your closest friends. You can be a good friend to everybody, but choose the two or three guys that you can really have deep conversations with and really open up to and cry in front of. That's why we're doing this real men real confessions, why, but then it's to get guys in there that realize they do have a problem in one or multiple areas of the life, but be able to open up and really be vulnerable in what we're going to create, which is a real safe environment. 


 Sir Brad
 I believe that environment is sitting around a campfire, late at night with a bourbon and a scotch smoking a cigar with a bunch of dudes. And we just go around the wheel. When we say Josh, open up and be vulnerable, like you probably know in your heart and there's one or two areas that you really need help with. And I guarantee you there'll be tears and there'll be a lot of hugs, but I don't think really anybody is doing that I know of at the level that we want to do that out. I think it's going to be very impactful and more importantly bring about a lot of positive change hopefully in people's lives. 


 Josh
 Yeah. Super cool, man. I'm in, whenever you do something like that, you let me know how I could support that and present that where's a good place for dudes. Guys are listening in. They go, Hey man, I want to connect with sir Brad. What's a good place for guys to connect with you and maybe reach out and start a conversation. 


 Sir Brad
 Yeah. Well the easiest way is man, just look me up on Instagram. It's just my first and last name. It's Brad blazer. There are no ease at all in the spelling of my name. It's Blaz a R, but they'll follow me on Instagram. Now I will let you know. There are a couple of imposters out there that will try to sell you crypto and we'll try to DM you. It's just my first and last name. No SS, no lines, no b******t. It's just Brad blazer. I'm on Instagram DME, I'll respond back or go to my website, Brad blazer.com. I'm on books. They're all on Amazon rates, but that's the easiest way to follow me. I'm on all social media platforms. 


 Josh
 Cool. Super cool. All right guys, I love you guys. This show's for you. If you have questions or if something going on in your life and you need some help head on over to uncensored advice for men.com, you could click on the microphone down on the bottom, right? You can leave a voice message there, or you could send a message by clicking the contact up at the top. There's no excuses. If you have questions or you need help, we will find guests or past coaches or people that can answer. Some of your questions. Love you guys as always reach out to our guests and say, thank you. Talk to you all next episode. See you guys. 



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Brad Blazar

Formerly the CEO of a small oil company, Brad is a highly sought after speaker on the subject of raising capital. Having raised in excess of $2 Billion dollars, today he mentors others around the world as part of a global coaching business on how to raise funds from high net worth investors to build, buy, and scale a business - or fund a special project like real estate.

Additionally, he has closed the largest mega-million dollar transactions for multiple leading real estate companies - $9M, $7.5M, $5M for SmartStop Self Storage and national operator of self storage assets in addition to $11M for USAllianz

As a real estate investor himself, he has purchased, rehabbed and renovated dozens of properties and invests as co-GP or GP in multi-family today.

As the author of two books, his first book On The Wings of Eagles - Learn to Soar in Life quickly became a top rated #1 read for entrepreneurs in addition to hosting the 2nd highest ranked podcast Beast Nation to help you cope with COVID-19