How To Fight An Invisible War With Joseph Warren

 Joah
 To good day fellows. Welcome to uncensored advice for men guys. Guess what? This show has hit some cool milestones besides, being a whatever popular show that doesn't matter. We've had dudes reach out that go, Hey, I was thinking of killing myself and, thank you for some message. We've been able to connect them with coaches and advisors. We've had guys that, wife just left him are going through rough time and we've been able to connect them with either, our coaches or resources or past guests. That's, to me, the ultimate success of this show is you guys hearing stuff, reaching out to our guests and getting help. We all need help. And this is a show for it. You guys are asking questions and then I don't know the answer. I go out and I find smart people who could talk to you. And then I connect you guys. 

 Joah
 That's our mission. That's our model. With that, we had some questions about, anger in life and challenges that go on. So, we, we found some guys who could talk to that. With that, Joseph, welcome to show. 

 Joseph
 Thanks brother. Appreciate it. Happy to be here and serve your men. I'm not just a guy who talks about anger. I'm an expert at what I do. I help men blow up the rocks in their head that are holding them back in their personal life that are holding them back in their business. What I mean by rocks in their head is head trash. Brother, if you're listening right now, you've got rocks in your head. Your wife's been telling you about it. Your kids are telling you about it. Maybe at work they're showing up, maybe you're showing up, with certain addictions in your life, those are caused by the rocks in your head. We're going to blow those up today. We're going to talk about why therapy and counseling don't work for most men, whether you're Christian or not the underlining guy problem that isn't taught in church, but absolutely should be the number one myth about men's anger. 

 Joseph
 This makes most men stop trying at home. So we're going to get into that. We're going to tell you how to stop yelling at your wife and kids. If that's something you're dealing with and not having to feel guilt and shame anymore around that, we're going to talk about the seven steps for mastering anger and stress. That's that's the gold mine. Men want to hear that all the time. So we'll get into that. If Josh allows it happy to be here. 

 Joah
 Yeah. With that, so I am also an expert in anger and yelling. I'm pretty darn good at it, right? I can go from cool, calm collective to like, seven or eight out of 10 on the anger Richter scale. I know a lot of you guys can go, yep. Me too. Raise your hand. If, if you ever blown up on your kid, when they asked you, Hey, will you get me a glass of water? And it freaks you out. Why does that happen? All right. So, all right, Joseph let's start peeling back the onion and taking a look at the issue that you're seeing. Guys have anger, shame, guilt, head rocks, head trash, yelling, stress. What's what's going on with dudes, man. 

 Joseph
 Listen, I think in our current society, it's been shoved in our face that our emotions don't matter as men, that women's emotions are valid and men's emotions avoid. They're not they're obsolete. So we're human and we experience emotions. We experienced joy and gladness and peace and purpose, but we also experienced the negative ones. We've experienced loss of control, feelings of powerlessness, depression, anxiety, anger in a rage. We don't know what to do with those emotions because they're not allowed out in the world. If you express any of those emotions as a man, you could be canceled, which could impact your career, your finances, your livelihood, your acceptance, or rejection out in the world. There's too much at risk for men. What do men do with their very human emotions? Nobody teaches them. There you go. All right. So I see a world of men. I call them PAMs, right? 

 Joseph
 These are passive alpha males, right? Passive alpha males. And they're suppressing all their emotions. They're pushing it deep down. Cause that's what were taught to do for the last three generations. I was raised by a Marine and men, boys don't show emotion, boys. Don't cry. Suck it up, man. Up. Let's go. I think we're at a place now where we've tried that as a, a male society and our lives are a wreck and the anger is blowing up and think of it this way as a man, all your emotions, think picture a tube of toothpaste, right? And you take the cap off. When the pressure of life, right, it squeezes on the tube of you. Well, the emotions are supposed to come out the top, just like women do they express themselves. Society said, don't, you dare on locked or take off that cap. You gotta tighten that thing. 

 Joseph
 Do not let those things out. So, okay. That's fine. We listened. Life still keeps applying pressure and stress on the two of us. Eventually if we don't release that cap on the top, it's going to blow out the sides or the bottom. It's going to happen at the worst times in our life. Like you said, Josh, why do I yell at my kid when he asks for a glass of water? I just explode on him, it's not because of the glass of it's because of all the emotions, you press it down for the last year. That just blew out over that little glass of water. Yeah. This is what we're talking about. This is the major problem that isn't taught in church, but absolutely should be. Pastors should be speaking about this. Listen, men, you're sitting out there on those wooden chairs. You're a bunch of angry men. 

 Joseph
 You're angry boys, and you don't know what to do with it. And you're destroying your marriages. You're destroying your kids and the future of our society. We need to help you. Nobody's taught you what to do with those emotions. It's not your fault. Yeah. So we're not here to blame men. We're here to save men, right? And there's a big difference. God's the one that will save them. I teach them how to get real practical, how to get real results in their life. Using very practical tools to blow out the head trash once. And for all, I don't do therapy. I don't do counseling. That's if you want to talk about your rocks or learn ways to manage and cope them and carry the rocks from one side of your back and move it to the other side for the next 20, 30 years, you've been doing that. 

 Joseph
 How's it going? 

 Joah
 Not good. 

 Joseph
 Guys. Hire me when they're ready to be done with their rocks once and for all permanent healing. That's what I do. 

 Joah
 Yeah. Here's dude, this is super exciting. I thought, right. So also raised by a military guy. My dad, my dad was a airborne paratrooper guy in Vietnam, a couple of purple hearts, a couple of bronze stars. Bad-ass dude. 

 Joseph
 Talking about his, served with my dad in Vietnam as well. 

 Joah
 Yeah. So, thank your dad for service. One of the, one of the things being raised by that, my dad state champ rest, or my dad was a bad-ass dude. Right. I wanted to be like, my dad. 

 Joseph
 There's Superman, 

 Joah
 Super dude. Right. A grown up like that, watching rated R movies that 10 years old Rambo win and all these things, I, my whole life was how do I become the bad assess dude? I could be got into wrestling, wanted to get in. I was in ROTC, got into the fire service, right. Everything that masculinity. Right. I thought only wimps deal with emotions. Right. Don't like I was a nice guy until right. Until I realized I was suffering, anxiety, depression, PTSD, all these things. I felt like a wimp and I did not know how to deal with it. Fights with wife fights with kids, thought about killing myself. All right. Let's unpack this dude because I grew up in a church raised by the church, grew up with a bad-ass tough dad. Right. I D I was ill-equipped to deal with this. How do you take a guy like me and start to retrain us to break rocks in our head? 

 Joah
 Cause I had a lot of rocks bouncing around in my head. 

 Joseph
 Yeah. Before we go there, that's pretty much the seven steps I'm going to teach today if you allow me to. Before we do there, that is it fine. If I kind of set the foundation of like, why the rocks are happening? Like where they're coming from a spiritual lens, not just what we spoke about an emotional lens so far with a tube of toothpaste. 

 Joah
 Sure. And here's the thing being a guy. Here's what I did straight to the fix. Just tell me what the fricking do and I'll fix it. Right? Fix the problem. Fix the pain without telling me about the root cause. Go through the root cause, because I think that's important for me to understand that. 

 Joseph
 Well, I think it's important, what you just said, right? I'm a guy I need to control things. I need to fix things. When I don't feel I can control things, I feel loss of control. That loss of control causes negative emotions in me because I feel powerless. And I don't like to feel powerless. So I need to control suffering. So therefore I'm to go wreck something. My little boy, Asher, he's eight months old and it's just in his nature. I hand them a little toy car and he just starts banging it, banging it. He likes the sound. He's got a natural destructive tendency in him as a ball, as a boy. I love it. Right. That can be used for good. It can be used for good. Right. It's naturally in him to kind of wreck things. Okay. So now imagine him, he's already strong. 

 Joseph
 The guys got guns at eight months old, man. He's like diesel. I'm like, man, when he becomes a young man, I really need to channel this energy cause he can destroy things. We want as men to fix ourselves and there lies the problem. There lies the problem because it's our need to control. It's our addiction for controlling that causes this problem. It's self-reliance versus God reliance. For anyone listening right now that you're just not in that spiritual place. Okay. Just hear me out. Maybe you'll piece this together, but if you're say a Christian man listening right now, you're really going to get what I'm saying right now. You can't fix things. You can't see true or true. 

 Joah
 Yeah. 

 Joseph
 And emotions. Can you see them or are they invisible to you? 

 Joah
 I only see them when I caused destruction. 

 Joseph
 See that's exactly at Josh. We can't see him, our emotions. We only can see the effect of them. Right. Cause an effect. So the emotion blows up, anger, rage. We see our wife crying and our kid running and fear from us. We see the impact of the emotion. How do you fight an invisible enemy? And you brought up Vietnam. This is a great example because America was pulled into a battle with an invisible enemy that dug tunnels underground in the Vietnam, in the Vietcong jungle. Were fighting an invisible enemy and they would come up through these tunnels and just attack us and ambush us and hundreds of thousands of American soldiers were killed. At the end of that war, just going back into time for a minute, my father was a helicopter mechanic on those double Hilo choppers. He had to fly down cause it was all hands on deck at the end of the war. 

 Joseph
 Cause it got so bad over there. We felt total powerlessness right in another country. Were like a world power and this little island was destroying us, right? Because they were playing a totally different game than us. They were invisible to us. My dad had to go down the, the ropes into enemy fire to retrieve the dog tags from his fallen brothers to bring back those dog tags to the family. So that's something to remember them by. You can imagine the feeling of powerlessness. My father had that he couldn't save his friends. And then the survivor's guilt. Why is he the only one going back? And all his whole platoon is dead. Right? All those emotions, he stuffed down deep into his soil. See God made us all with good soil as men, right? Rich soil, fertile soil. He wants to be fruitful us to be fruitful in our lives. 

 Joseph
 He has an awesome plan for each of us. But over time, life, war battle, right? Rocks get thrown into our soil by others. We have our own pile rocks. We throw back at them. We retaliate your wife, says something to you. You're like, eh, take a rock honey. Right? And this is what we do. So we're throwing rocks into their soil. They're throwing rocks into our soil, but the women get to express themselves and release a lot of their rocks because it's allowed in society. But us men we can. We suppress, we surprised that we press them down deep into the soil so that we can't notice them anymore. We don't have to deal with them. Here's what happens when the storms of life, the rain, the snow, the sleet come our way, it presses the rocks even further down. The rocks left on the tended in our life. 

 Joseph
 The head trash, they grow over time. They say time heals all things. That's a blatant lie. Time does not heal. All things. Forgiveness heals, all things, forgiveness, heals, all things. Time does not. So time actually makes things worse. Things grow and fester disease grows and festers. Rocks grow and they fester within your soil brother, as you're listening right now, today, you have rocks in your soil that have been there for 10, 20, 30, 50 years. And they've grown so big. Some of them get so big that they raise to the surface and now you finally see them. It looks like alcoholism, porn addiction, right? Cheating on your wife, massive fits of anger, rage. And you're like, just can't control it. See, but now the problem is those little pebbles, those rocks that were thrown in earlier that got to such a big size that they're now too big for you, the boulders. 

 Joseph
 You finally noticed you have a bleeping problem, you've got rocks sticking out of your soil on they're sharp and they're cutting people and hurting people in your life. When you go to lift them in your own strength, getting back to the point of us, trying to fix ourselves and you try to lift them in your own strength. You can't, you're not strong enough. Your strengths not sufficient as God says in the Bible, but his is so what do you do with it? What do you do with it? First we have to get to that place of acceptance. That one, you got rocks in your soil too. They've gotten so bad and so big that you're not strong enough to fix them yourself. You got to get to that place. Otherwise you're going to just keep being that guy. That's trying to lift a Boulder and breaking a sweat and breaking his back, but actually not moving it. 

 Joseph
 Eventually you give up and you check out and you sedate yourself and you pacify yourself with all these addictions. You go ahead. 

 Joah
 Yeah. So awesome point. I've got these rocks and what happens, I think is, I, I try to push these rocks away or I try to, like pour some alcohol on it or smoke some weed on it, blow some smoke at it. Right. Cover it up and smoke or eat too much, cover it in sugar or, how many chicks I could pick up. I, and I covered in sex or I could outwork it. Right. I covered it up in workaholism or in what I look like, my pride, my ego. Right. I, I put all these things to try to essentially what it's doing is I have a rock and I'm not willing to deal with the rock. I start learning how to live with the rock. I actually start painting the rock. I put in my hand, print on it and go, that's my rock. And I put lipstick on it. 

 Joah
 I, you know, I like the rock. Right. I, and I wound up living with it until it starts cutting things that I love. 

 Joseph
 That's right. 

 Joah
 That's when I think guys go, Hey dude, I need either I need help. Or we self-destruct put a bullet in our brain, jump off a bridge because the rock is just too heavy. Yeah. It got out of control. 

 Joseph
 That's right. 

 Joah
 That for guys like me, I, I stood on a bridge thinking to killing myself. I, I went to the edge where it put myself in the hospital, I'll push. I push until one day I just broke and I had to ask for help. Why am I so freaking stubborn? You know why? 

 Joseph
 Well, I think, listen, again, going to spiritual things, we have a hell bent tendency. Meaning our default switches to do wrong is to get away with things is to hurt people is to be selfish because we're prideful, right? This is the fall of mankind. If you look in the Bible, this is how man fell. This is how the enemy fell. Now he's leading us the same root sin right. Of pride. We always try to play God in our own life. That's our natural default switch. That's very important to understand. Even when we see the rock and it's bigger than us and everything, we still think we're big and powerful enough to fix it. We ended up sitting on the throne of our own life rather than putting God on the throne and asking him for help. Even guys that finally admit to me, they're like Joseph, all right. 

 Joseph
 I got a problem. You're absolutely right. I see the rock. Yeah. All right. I just need to work harder on it. I'm like, no, you idiot. That's called insanity. You're doing the same approach that you've been doing for 15 years. How's it going? Is it working or not working? Just get right to it. There's no blame here. Just look at what's. Are you still dealing with the rock? Is it still in your life? Is it still hurting you? It still hurting others that you love then the same approach that you've been using is not working and will never work. That means you must change your approach or you're insane. Like you got to get to that reality. Yeah. All right. Most guys, they deny it and they live in the fantasy land. Like you said, even though there people are crying all around them, their family members like, honey, what are you doing? 

 Joseph
 You're hurting us. We love you, 

 Joah
 Joe Joseph, for me, man. You, I think you, have you ever been like rebuked or like someone like give you some really tough advice? You're like, man, that kind of stung but I know that it was healthy for me. It's like a personal trainer who like makes you do one other push-up and you're like, I hate your guts, but thank you. As you were talking through this, like for me, I can deal with this. Right? I'll I'll chip away. This I'll take care of it, man. I'm chipping away. You know, I'm working on it. I just read a book on it, going through this thing called, self-help for me, pride. I can fix this. This is my issue. I'll deal with it. That's right. There's other people with bigger issues. 

 Joseph
 That's. 

 Joah
 Right. Pride was the reason I didn't go, Hey, someone helped me products, right? 100%. 

 Joseph
 It's ego because listen in our society, it's not safe to say you don't have it all figured out as a man. Yeah. You wear the mask and you be in self-denial, even as you watch your family headed off a cliff. And you're the one driving. 

 Joah
 I loved myself more than, oh, that sucks. I didn't get help at the time. Luckily I started working through some stuff with the help of others, but it's like the self preservation of protecting my ego. That's right. Seeing the world fall apart around, one morning I woke up, I got to share this with you because this shows you how far I would take it. Bankrupt food stamps, eviction notices on the door, see two vehicles leave on the back of tow trucks. Right? Like still pushing and pushing. I know my ways. Right, right. One morning I woke up. I, me wife and I think two kids at the time I woke up one morning, she wasn't in the bed. I thought she packed up. The stuff said, I'm done with you and left. The kid was crying. She was in the room with the other kid. 

 Joah
 At that point I knew I had an issue I'm willing to bleed out before I get help. 

 Joseph
 Yeah. So, all right. For, the brother who's listening right now and saying, what? You're right. You're both right. My ego has been the problem. My ego is what's in the way. Yeah. That's called a NIGO rock and it's massive. Okay. It's massive. All right. You got to get to this place. All right. Joshua, are you finding if I give them the seven steps to master their anger and stress, 

 Joah
 Dude, I got a pen. I'm actually taking notes. I'll go for. 

 Joseph
 It. Right? Let's go. All right. Step one. Outrageous ownership, outrageous ownership, brother. This means that you take extreme ownership for the life that you created. No one else is to blame you face and embrace the consequences of all your decisions, the good ones and the bad ones. You're not going to try to escape your life ever again. This is, this is step one. You must take outrageous ownership. This isn't a blame game. This isn't a condemnation. This is a conviction. This is looking at your life and saying, I train people how to treat me well and how to mistreat me and everything that resulted from that is on me. See, you got to man up, lean into the darkness within you. And I know it's scary. It was scary as heck. When I had to do it, I have to face sex addiction. I was addicted to sex and it was the first thing in my life. 

 Joseph
 I couldn't quit. Even when I tried the rock grew so big. Now there was chemical responses happening in my body and I needed the next fix. Just like Coke, like a cocaine or heroin. 

 Joah
 Yeah. 

 Joseph
 Right. You got to get to that place of outrageous ownership. Like I created that no one else, step to radical responsibility after you own your mess, what are you going to do? Just drown it out. Alcohol, as Josh said, or you can actually do something about it and get rid of it. Turn your mess into a miracle that it requires radical responsibility. This means you're going to lean in and do whatever it takes for as long as it takes to create workability in all areas of your life. Not just in your work. That's easy. Work is easy to control. You could Google business strategy, success principles, and get predictable outcomes. In your home life, you're dealing with humans, not business tactics and strategies. That's where you feel loss of control. Nobody's taught you how to be successful at home. So that's why you're sucking wind. 

 Joseph
 There's people like me out there that can teach you exactly how to win at home and in your business, make the 7, 8, 9 figures, but also have a fulfilling marriage and kids that love you and want to be with you so that when you die with zero regret. See I sell peace. That's what I sell. I sell that piece that you're longing for. We had when were little boys, but we lost it somewhere along the way, because life kicked the teeth out of us. All right. So radical responsibility. You must accept brother that no one is coming to save you. No one is coming to save you. You're not strong enough to save yourself. If you are, you would have done it already. True. A true. All right. Step three. Loving second. 

 Joah
 Hold on. Yeah, 

 Joseph
 Hold on. I know these are powerful, man. These have depth. 

 Joah
 No one is coming to save you before you go on to step three, bro. No one is coming to save you. What was the other one? You said no one is coming to save you and you can, oh and you can't in, you can't save yourself. Save you. That's all right. I know we got to get through the seven. To me. There's this? I know. No one's coming to save me. Right? Nobody gives a s**t. Right? Like let's be honest. Everybody's focusing on themselves and figuring out their own stuff. But that you can't save you that's to me, that's a hurdle, bro. Like that's a challenge. I could read the self-help books. I've listened tony Robbins and I've studied the program. I've gone through this stuff yet. Still I hurt. I'm hurting. Right? You can't save you, but I don't have time. Money, resources, whatever you can't save you. 

 Joah
 Maybe going through the steps you'll show us. To me, I can, but I can't, like in my head I'm like, yeah, you can, Josh. You can do anything. It's failed every single time. 

 Joseph
 Listen again, you can win against a visible enemy, but we're dealing with emotions. We're dealing with spiritual rocks. These are intangibles. You can't touch them. You can't control them. You can't manipulate them. Right. This is outside your scope of expertise. So you're just fooling yourself. If you think, if you just apply more strength in the physical universe that you're able to move the spiritual universe. Sorry. It doesn't work that way. Two different realms brother. You're in denial. 

 Joah
 Yeah. 

 Joseph
 Right? 

 Joah
 So it's not the Nile right? 

 Joseph
 There you go. Right. All right. Let's move to step three loving leadership. But we're going to address your answer. It's in step four. Okay? Okay. But step three is loving leadership. I summed up whether it be leadership in business leadership and life leadership at home with your kids, leadership in your marriage, right. To be in the spiritual leader of your home are called to do as Christian men. The pastor won't tell us how to actually do that. Just do it and do it harder. Keep going. You should. You should. You should, pastors should have all over us, but they don't give us how do we bleep in do it, bro? I'm practical. Like Josh said, give me the freaking blueprint and I'll get it done. I'm a bad-ass okay. Leadership means in three words, you go first. That's the definition of leadership. You go first. 

 Joseph
 This means you brother. You're going to put yourself at risk. You're going to take the arrows. Not your wife, not your kids. Oh, but Joseph, my wife, she's just more spiritual than me, ? And she likes to lead the prayer. She's really good at it. I just let her lead the family when it comes to that. Well then you're fricking Pam dude. You're passive. You're a wuss. You're not good at it because you don't practice it. Yeah. Lean in. You gotta put yourself at risk. You got to go first. Not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends, not your employees. And you're going to take action today. That's what leadership looks like. Don't tell me, you love your family. If you're not willing to take the arrow. 

 Joah
 All right. Here's another one. Right? So I'm a pretty tough dude. I'm going to be super transparent. I think other guys in the audience will go, yeah, me too. Super tough guy. Right? I think at least in my head I'm five foot days and I have this Napoleonic complex that I could still walk everybody's ass. 

 Joseph
 Great. Probably Ken dude, MMA equalize, the playing field dude. 

 Joah
 So I'm a wrestler. I've done. Whatever. It doesn't matter in my head. I can whoop anybody. So I'm a tough dude. You know who? The one person I fear sometimes I fear my wife. Not because I think she could beat me because I need sex. I need intimacy. And I'm into this thing called marriage. I could only get it from one place. Right? It's just like either myself or her. Right. Like in my head, like I don't want to rock the boat if things are good and we're having consistent booty, right? I don't want to shake the boat dude. Or we get in a fight. It just screws up my whole day. My work week, whatever the case may be. This whole idea of like taking the arrows first, leading being the first passive angry men. I think all of us guys, if you're honest with yourself, one of the people that we fear is the, the wife fearing, disrupting the relationship, rocking the boat there. 

 Joah
 Did anybody agree with me? You can hate me all. You want, you can send messages, but look inside. Is it true too? What are your thoughts on that, dude? 

 Joseph
 I, I hear you loud and clear. However, I think you're missing, understanding. You don't fully understand what a woman actually wants please. Okay. I don't mean that in a condescending way at all. I had no clue what a woman one wanted. That's why I used them left. Right? Yeah. In your marriage, you must become a professional elite performer intimacy. If you want your marriage to last and to be fulfilling. That means it's not just about your needs and rocking the bed. Yeah. You're so worried about rocking the boat. Don't rock the boat. Otherwise you'll lose rocking the bed. Yeah. In fact, your wife wants you to rock her world. Rock her world, right? Not just a booty, like you said, and the way you do that is by standing up as a strong alpha male. Who's not led by himself in his own egoic agenda and motives what he could get for him and how he can manipulate the conversation to get more sex with her. 

 Joseph
 You think she can't feel that she's not stupid. She's tolerating it, but a woman will only tolerate it for so long. Before it, you become the statistic and she walks out the door and takes the kids and you lose everything. You've worked so hard to achieve and acquire, gone in an instant. See, this is what men are in denial about living in fantasy. They don't think that will ever happen to them. That just happens to other guys. That's pride. Dude. Pride makes you blind. Everyone sees it, right? You got to show up as a strong alpha male, right? We got to take you from being a Pam, a passive angry man to a Sam, right. A strong alpha man. Right. And that's what it looks like. Did that help a little bit? She wants to see you lead dude spiritually. She wants to see you surrender to no man, but to surrender to God when she sees you surrender to God, but you fear no other man, dude, a woman follows a woman is so turned on. 

 Joseph
 You never have a booty bedrock and problem in your marriage. She's so freaking lit up, man. Like, it's incredible. I know. Cause I'm in that marriage right now. I rocked my wife's world. Therefore I have the privilege to rock my wife, sped. 

 Joah
 We're going to get her on the show one day. Let's go. I'm going to do a fact check on. 

 Joseph
 We've already been on a show is called kick ass couples. My wife led the whole darn thing. And she spoke about this. 

 Joah
 Awesome dude. For thou, some guys, you guys might be listening and you're like, listen, dude, all this stuff that you're saying is cool, right? Like, but I'm not spiritual. I don't have faith or whatever. You might go in, okay, don't fear, man. Be a strong Sam. I that's a rhyme. Right. But for Christian dudes out there, right. If you believe in Jesus and God and don't fear, man, but surrender to God. You're like dad is the key right there for Christian dudes. Like that key unlocks intimacy, unlocks, rocking, rocking the bed. Right. That sounds all right. Cool. All right. Keep going, man. That was, that was a good key for me. 

 Joseph
 All right. You just let us into step four, which is the key. I think it's the foundational key that unlocks all the doors of the other steps, which is spiritual surrender. This means brother, whether you're spiritual or not. Dude, I was at a place where I was agnostic. Then I was atheist. But you know what? I wasn't stupid enough of foolish enough to think that somehow this entire amazing universe around me, that I can't control a manipulate somehow came together through a lava soup, explode. Like, are you kidding me? The complexity of around us and the beauty in creation, there has to be someone who designed it. That'd be a stupid and foolish as looking at a Tesla and saying, oh, this just came together on its own. After billions of years with a genius, a smart computer with 2000 cameras that read stop signs and speed limits. 

 Joseph
 Like it just all came together. Chaotic chaos turned to perfect order. Dude, show me one other thing in your life where that's happened. Can you give me one example? If you can't shut up, man, you just got pride. You got a big pride rock. That's keeping you from actually opening up to see who is God, really not who people told you he was or who you believe him to be in your own image and likeness. See, we make God into our small image and likeness. Like he's some genie in the sky rather than being raised up to his image and likeness. Wherever you are brother, if you're at a place in your spiritual journey, like I was, I just had a big rock of pride standing in my way. That's why I wouldn't let God in. Man, when I finally surrendered the rock, cause my life was just so bad and I hit the rock bottom and I said, God, take it all. 

 Joseph
 If you exist, let me know you exist. Show me you're real in my life in a way I even, I can't deny and guess what happened? I cracked the door just the little and God's like came in and he proved he existed in my life and it was undeniable and it was experiential. I couldn't ever say he did it again. He took away my big excuse and blasted that rock to smithereens. That's for the guys that are in that place in their journey. I just want to serve them. Okay. There's nothing wrong with you. You're just out. That's just a marker in your spiritual journey, but you got to move. It don't stay there. You're going to die that way. And then you're going to face him. Whether you're atheist agnostic or Christian, every single person will believe in God when they die. Every person will cause they're going to look them right in the eye and there will be a judgment. 

 Joseph
 Anyway, moving on for all the Christian brothers out there, spiritual surrender. This means you give God total and complete control over your business and your family. That means your finances too. And that is hard. That was the most difficult hold out for me. That was the last stronghold. I wouldn't give God my money cause I didn't actually trust him. I finally had an honest conversation with God and I said, God, I love you. I really do love you, but I don't trust you. I don't trust you. I think you're going to let me down. I trust myself more. See? And that's where it all began. I want to wrap up spiritual surrender on this. This is, this set me free and I hope it sets one man free. I'm only here for the one, man. Who's ready in this audience. You brother, this is going to set you free from all your stress and anxiety right here. 

 Joseph
 When you get this, like in your being, you are only responsible for your actions and your inactions. Let me say that again. You are only responsible for your actions and your inactions, all outcomes and results belong to God. Let me say that again. All outcomes and results belong to God, not you. When you finally get that, you stop trying to manipulate everything in the direction. You want it to go. You show up to the business meeting completely at peace. However, this turns out is fine because I already surrendered the outcome and result of God. I'm a show and absolutely serve my best to these people or in my marriage with my wife. I'm not going to try to manipulate or ease her or soften the conversation. Yes, dear. Sure, sure. I just want to get laid tonight, whatever you say. See, I'm not going to do that anymore because I'm going to surrender those outcomes and results to God. 

 Joseph
 This set me free. Josh. This was the biggest thing. This spiritual surrender step, as you said, is the key for all men, whether you're Christian or not Christian, it's the key to everything you had anything around that before I move forward. 

 Joah
 That's its own episode, bro. That that's, that is, that's one of those things that we start digging into that it's yeah. I love God. Right. Do I really trust him with my money? With my health, with my kids, with my wife, my business, with my fill in the blank. Don't know. 

 Joseph
 Sure you do. Sure you do answer it. Okay. Like if you had to right now answer it and I don't mean to put you on the spot. That's totally outrageous that I'm doing that, but I'm a podcast host myself. So I hope you can respect. 

 Joah
 No, I, I do respect that and the honest answer is I, I try and that for me, like I am in the, I step out in the faith of it. Like I, I don't feel like I do, but I, my actions say that I do right. I give my money. I give my business consistent. I give, tried to my family. Right. I I'm constantly going. I surrender, I surrender. I surrender. Every once in a while I looked down and I'm carrying the rocket again. I'm like, how did that happen? Right? Yeah. Stressing about money. I'm stressing about my wife or my kids or my health or my family or my mom or whatever. Like I constantly have to go, oh, this is yours. I don't own this. And I I'm the doer. I'm the pick. I there's a problem. I pick up the rock and I start carrying it. 

 Joah
 So. 

 Joseph
 I'm a picker-upper, I'm a picker-upper man. Listen, if you brother, as you're listening are just like Josh and Josh, thanks for that. Authenticity. Really appreciate that. Right? You like Joseph, I've surrendered these rocks to God already. I looked down a month later and it's there and I'm stumbling over the same rock perpetually. Well, all that means is you half-assed surrendered it, but you didn't actually surrender it. Right. You're just lying to yourself. Pretending you surrendered it because it made you feel good in the moment. Right? But here's what we do. We, we do the, the half reach to God, here's, here's the rock. Here's the rock. But we don't fully extent. Here's the rock. Here's the rock. But then we take it right back. Because deep down in our core, we trust ourself more that rhymed deep down in our core, we trust ourselves more. 

 Joah
 I like it. W w we're creating some shirts and some swag from this, 

 Joseph
 The word Smith geniuses, let's go. All right. So, so this is what happens. I used to steal from God all the time. Meaning I would take back from him. What belonged to him after he finally said, son, give it to me, give me the rocks. Give me the addiction. It's too big for you. I'm God, I'm strong enough. This doesn't rock me. But this is destroying you son. Give it to me. I'm like, okay, God, here you go. Here's the point. Hey, go. A week later, I'm like, no, I want it back. I want it back because I need to self-soothe because I had that thing. That deal didn't go right at work. And I'm fricking angry. What the heck I should have done better. I'm beating the crap out of myself and I need to go suck on a pacifier now called porn. 

 Joah
 Hi. It's not when things go bad. Sometimes it's a celebratory thing. Like, Hey man, I just crushed a big deal. I'm feeling like a man. Let's go look at a little three inch screen on my phone and get a rock off. 

 Joseph
 That's a new expression for my coaching, man. You're welcome to your rocks off. Yeah, exactly. All right. Let's move to steps. Five step five. Right? Bold belief, bold belief, brother. This means that you must actually believe in God's Providence and his biblical promises. The Bible tells us do not put God to the test. Okay. Nowhere does it say it's the no. Where does it say, do not put God's promises to the test. See king. David did this all the time. God, you promised that if I did this and this, you would do this. Why haven't you? What's going on Brian? My rock and David would get angry with God, but he was honest with God. And God loves an honest son. So what did God say about David? He goes, now this is a man after my own heart. Right? How cool is that? That God is a safe place to bring your anger. 

 Joseph
 The world and society says it's not safe for you to air your laundry or you could be canceled. God says, no, bring it to me. I'm a safe place. And I love that. Honesty son tell me you're p****d off at me. Tell me how you're angry. I remember I got angry with God and I was like, dude, where, why you God, when that person hurt me, when I was a little boy, God, where were you? Why didn't you save me? Why didn't you protect me? What kind of father are you? If blank and blank happened. And it was in those conversations. See, anger is a powerful emotion. Most people think when someone's angry. Oh, that means hatred. But even hatred creates intimacy. You can't be, you can't hate someone without being deeply connected to them. Right? It's indifference. That's the worst. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Bold believe means you actually believe in God's promises and his Providence. 

 Joseph
 You believe that God is a good father. That he's faithful. You believe that the king of the universe is your father. Because of this, it's absolutely unreasonable for you to doubt, complain or worry about the future. If you do find yourself doubting, complaining, or worrying about the future, there is your evidence brother that you don't actually believe God is a good father and that he's faithful. And that he loves you. 

 Joah
 It's unreasonable to doubt, 

 Joseph
 Complain or blame or worry, doubt, complainant or worry, brother. If you find yourself doing that and you're you got worry rocks, right? You're a professional worrier. Oh, he's trying to control the future and stuff like that. It's because you don't actually believe that the king of the universe who runs all things, who is your father, you don't believe he actually loves you enough to care about you. Otherwise it would be completely unreasonable for you to doubt, complain or worry. Dad's got it. I gave it to him. He's got it. He loves me. It's good. I just got to wait now patiently until he provides. 

 Joah
 Well, that's a bad word patiently right now, dude. God fix this. Now I'm in pain. I'm hurting. Fix it. Yeah. 

 Joseph
 You want to hear my favorite and my least favorite Bible verse. 

 Joah
 Yeah. 

 Joseph
 Yeah. It's a control freaks out there. Just like me. Yeah. Wait patiently on the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes. You little control-freak wait patiently on the Lord. See God tells us twice because he knows our need to control everything in our lives and our resistance to waiting. So you must align yourself. This is why I teach men to do, is to align themselves with God's will. After that to align themself with God's timing, both are necessary. You, cause when you fully believe that God's got it and that you surrendered it and that he loves you and he's gonna, he has good plans for you. You're willing to wait because he's moving things in your life that you don't even know are there. He's fighting the invisible enemy that you can't see because he can and he's setting you up for good. If that takes a little more time than your, what you would do. 

 Joseph
 And, and if I remember when I would get angry with God, you're not moving fast enough. You're not doing this. You're not doing that. I was pretty much playing God in my own life. I was saying, I'm a better God than you in my own life. Yeah. You need to move faster. That's not how I would do it. I don't agree with this. Come up, go pick up the pace. All right. So bold belief. You got to get there, brothers. Now, listen, I'm giving you the seven steps. This is what you need to do. You notice, I'm not telling you the actual house. That's what people pay me for in the coaching. Right? I give you the, okay, how do you show up with bold belief in practical ways in your life. I teach you all that step six, powerful, perseverance, powerful perseverance. This means brother, that you need to wait patiently on the Lord to bring you his best, not your best. 

 Joseph
 So that's the difference. That's why it's taking longer. He's bringing you his best, which is so much bigger and better. I know in my own life, because I'm living in God's best right now. It took a little longer, but man, it's like blowing my mind. I'm about to buy a radio station here in Tampa bay. Like what they don't make, that real estate anymore, ? And I'm about to own it. One of the fastest growing cities in the United States and it reaches half a million right now and I'm like, God, you want me to do that? And you, what? Okay, cool. Let's go. I didn't do anything that showed up on my birthday because God's been moving things in my life because I'm fully surrendered to his will and his timing. It's a game changer. It's like you're in on an adventure with God February 2nd. 

 Joseph
 Groundhog's day. Happy birthday. Thanks man. All right. As that Bible verse says, powerful perseverance. You wait patiently on the Lord. Well, Joseph, what do I do while I'm waiting, man, I got to do something. I control something. I need to control something. Yeah. Well the Bible says be brave and courageous. That's what you do. Well, what does that look like? Well, it means actually staying surrendered and not stealing back the rocks from Dodd stealing back control from God that takes bravery. That takes courage to put all your faith in the king of the universe and not yourself to receive God's best. You must pass the test to receive God's best. You must pass the test. Brother. Most of us run from testing in our life. Cause it looks like discomfort. Yet we run to the gym and pay for a membership to create pain in our muscles, in our physical body. 

 Joseph
 Because why we know that friction creates growth and without friction, there is no growth. Well, it's the same in your spiritual life. It's the same in your marriage. It's the same in your parenting. Yet when friction happens, because we didn't choose it, we run from it. Meanwhile, God's trying to stretch you brother so that he can increase your capacity so that he can prepare you for the abundance he wants to pour into you and the massive impact he wants to give you, but you gotta become more in order to receive more. Do you get that? That's why the stretching is necessary. So stop, resisting and start cooperating. Yeah, it takes a little time, maybe a minute or a day. 

 Joah
 Or decade or decade. 

 Joseph
 How are we doing? We ready for step seven or nine? 

 Joah
 Yeah, no. We've got to wrestle with the number six, . Some, some dreams, right? We have these desires in our heart, right? Like, this is where I feel that I'm supposed to be my purpose in life. Right. The, the time it takes to see our purpose come to fruition sometimes as long as painful is brutal. I think a lot of guys go, man, screw that sucked. It costs me everything. It hurt me. It burned like, and they give up and they're like, f**k that. And I'm out, right? Or they go for security, your stability or safety. Right. Rather than what their calling or the purposes be courageous and brave, easier said than freaking done. Right. I know that you walk people on how to do that. You gotta, you gotta maybe give us one thing. There is how do I do that? Because I want to give up, I want to call it quits. 

 Joah
 I've been there, done that. Don't want to do that again. You got to give us a step there. You gotta give us an action plan. You gotta give us something that I can, I could dig in right there. 

 Joseph
 Gotcha. Yeah. I'll teach you right now. What I call a surrender prayer. Okay. Surrender. The prior teacher to my coaching. It's a game changer for my own life. This is where most of my transformation happened. All my clients, major transformation. And it's a daily tool. It's a practical tool that you use to combat your need, to control everything in your life, which comes up daily, hourly minutely. If that's a word. Yeah. All right. A practical tool is for example, God, I'm waiting. I'm waiting. I don't see it. Tick tock, tick tock. Let's go. Let's go. I would sit with God and he would remind me and say, son, be still. I'm like, God, what do I, what should I do today? Come on, let me in on the plan. What should I do? What should I do? Let's go. I got to control something. Or I feel you're responsible as a man. 

 Joseph
 God said, be still know that I am God not you right now, son. There's nothing for you to do. Just be still. What was that? Look like, God. Be still go about what I've already given. You love the people in front of you be present with them, serve them. Yeah. But I need to control something. God is a sun. There's nothing to control. I'm moving things for good. For your good for your family's good. I'm setting you up. Oh, that was so bleeping difficult, dude. All right. And this went on and on. Some days he would give me a little thing, go do this. The things he would give me what? Not the things I wanted. Yeah. Go ask that person forgiveness. Are you bleeping? Kidding me? I don't want to ask that person forgiveness. God, they messed up. I didn't do anything wrong. They did it. 

 Joseph
 Yeah. It's like son, go ask them forgiveness. Trust me. Well I got nothing else to do cause you won't give me anything. Fine. I'll go ask him forgiveness. And I did. And I meant it. All of a sudden that person got set free right before my eyes and they start weeping. This it wasn't just one person. Man. I've had so many forgiveness conversations though. I'm a professional athlete at this and I got set free. I'd even know I was carrying rocks from that. I was, I had rocks of bitterness and resentment towards that person because they believe in wrong to me. Well, those rocks weren't hurting them. The bitterness and resentment, they were hurting me. They were holding me down. God wanted to set me free. I had to go to that person. I had to go first, right? Leadership, loving leadership. I had to go first and ask forgiveness because there was no way they were ever going to do it because there was a blind spot that even now, or know how, but God taught me how. 

 Joseph
 I went in and I did it. I got set free. It opened up more things for me and my marriage and everything. I was like, wow, what was that? And it felt good. I started to get addicted to forgiveness conversation. It was a good addiction, right? But I'm a teacher, the surrender prayer. Now for all you men out there they're are a little control freaks like myself and Josh and you need to control time and space and people and situations. All right. It goes like this father or heavenly father, I surrender to you blank. Fill in the blank. What's the thing you're carrying. What's the rock. It could be anything. It could be an emotion. It could be a meeting. It can be a person. It could be. As an example, father, I surrender to you. The hurt that I felt when my wife said those words to me last week, I don't want it anymore. 

 Joseph
 It's too big for me. And this is a critical part. I give you permission. I give you permission to remove it for me in the name of Jesus. It's important because when we say in the name of Jesus, we call on the power of heaven to do the impossible, to do that, which we can on our own. See, we don't even know where the rock is. It's so deep down in our soil, right? We have no idea where to access it. It's in our heart somewhere. There's decay. There's debris, right? It's been there for so long. There's no way no therapist is going to get it out. No council is going to get it out. We can't get it out. So we need God's power. We call on the power of Jesus to heal just like he did in the Bible. There's three steps for any good surrender prayer. 

 Joseph
 The first time you do this brother, it's going to feel awkward. It's going to feel strange because you're so used to being in control and you're not used to surrender, but this is spiritual surrender. It's not weakness. Seeing the physical realm, surrendering is weak, right? You don't surrender to an opponent or whatever. That's weakness. You don't surrender to the other team before I do that, I'll bleed out before I surrender, but we're not surrendering to man. Yeah. We're surrendering to God. Actually acknowledging that he's superior to us and we don't have it all figured out. Right? So there's humility in that. So we surrender it to him. Three parts to an effective surrender prayer. The first part is the surrender father. I surrender to you blank, fill in the blank. The second part is I give you permission. Permission, you got to give God permission to enter in and remove it because God is the ultimate gentleman. 

 Joseph
 He will not move. Trump your will, unless you ask him and invite him in. That's why Jesus says, I knock on the door of your heart and wait. Right. He waits for you to invite them in. So permission is the second part. The third part is, you must believe he actually will belief. Okay. So you got that. Surrender permission and belief, brother, if you doing this during the day for all the little things that freak you out or that you can't control, or that weigh you down or make you depressed or anxious, the thoughts, the emotions, the sexual lust desires when you're married. You're thinking about this other girl, cause you saw the billboard or the movie, or you looked at porn. Yeah. Well use the surrender prayer father. I surrender to you. Ready? My imagination. Not the thoughts, the images I surrender to you, my imagination, because that's where the sin happens. 

 Joseph
 Yeah. It's not the image. It's what you do with it in your imagination, father, I surrender to you, my imagination. I give you permission to remove this lustful desire within me right now. That's not my wife, not for my wife in the name of Jesus. And I believe you actually will. Be done with it and hurl that rock to heaven. And don't try to steal it back. Your little control freaks. Is that helpful? 

 Joah
 Yeah. All right. That is amazing. So guys, let's pause right there. Pause. There's this little button on your podcast. The thing that you could go reverse, reverse 10 seconds at a time, 15 seconds at a time. Go through that man. Like for me, I need to surrender fear of what's going on in America. Fear of what's going on in the economy. Fear of the inflation, the lack of food shortage to the far, whatever. It doesn't matter. What's going on in the world. I'm afraid of it. That for not so much for me, I can, I'm pretty darn tough, but I'm afraid to go through it with my kids, my wife, I don't want my kids to suffer. I don't. I'm going to rewind a bit, bit, boop, go back. And I'm going to go through that. If here's a shout out to you, fellas, if you need someone to walk you through that, you can ping me. 

 Joah
 We'll give Joseph an opportunity later on to give away of how to connect with him in something, but you don't have to go through this alone. 

 Joseph
 So shouldn't it won't work. 

 Joah
 It won't work. All right. Cool. Number seven. Yeah, that was helpful. Great tool, man. 

 Joseph
 All right. Awesome. Just for any brother who feels stuck, what do I fill in the blank with? Look at any area of your life, where you feel powerlessness. That's why, that's what you, that's the thing to surrender. So father, I surrender to you blank. Where do you feel powerless today? In this moment right now? That's what you fill in. Josh shoes, I feel powerless in, I can't control all the evil and darkness that's spreading across the world that my kids are being, going to grow up in. Okay. God wants that. And it's not too big for him. Don't take it back and believe he's got it. Right. Okay. You guys you're good. Yeah. 

 Joah
 That was, that's little tough one dude, because like let's go with the imagination for a second. So economy. Yeah. Fearful. Right. I got guns, I got EMEA ammunition. I've got food storage, ill prepared still. Right? How do I get communicate? All these things are playing out in my head. Right. I've seen the movies. I've seen sure. Red Dawn and I'm like, are. 

 Joseph
 American sniper, Atlas go, 

 Joah
 How do we prepare? Right. I'm the guy who's like, I want to be prepared. I need to surrender my control of what I can do to prepare and prep and ? Right. 

 Joseph
 Well, so there's the problem right there. Because when you're trying to prepare, even though it sounds good in worldly wisdom, you're playing God. I would rather than be prepared, I would rather be protected. 

 Joah
 Yeah. 

 Joseph
 Rather than be prepared, relying on self. By the way, you'll never fully be prepared for anything that could happen like that, especially. Okay. There's no way you could still lose everyone. Okay. I'd rather be protected. I know that because I'm surrendered to God and I follow his laws and I I'm surrendering daily and I believe he's got me, his promises tell me he's going to protect me and my family. So the world around me can burn. My little family will walk through the flames. 

 Joah
 Yeah. 

 Joseph
 See, this is the difference between having faith and no faith. Life is hard enough. It's difficult enough, man. But to do it without faith. Well, that leads to depression as suicide, hopelessness, despair, 

 Joah
 Hopelessness, despair, lack of peace. 

 Joseph
 Lack of peace. Absolutely. So I told you, I sell peace. I have complete peace right now. By the way, several months ago, not several months ago, sorry, it's been two years as a pandemic. When, when it blew up right. March two years ago, I had those same fears as you Josh and anxiety. I had brand new baby and I was like, God, really? You gave me a baby now. But look at the world. God was like, surrender those rocks to me, surrender the fear to me, son, give it to me. So I did. I, and it took more than one time or more than one surrender pride. I was doing a daily cause it was creeping in daily. I'm surrendering a daily and I didn't fully believe he had it yet, but the more I practice it, the more I started to believe in the more I read his promises, the more I started to believe. 

 Joseph
 Finally I released it and I was done with it. Bro, since then I've had total epic peace, regardless of what's happening outside of me, I have peace inside of me. 

 Joah
 Yeah. 

 Joseph
 And I'm protected now in worldly wisdom. I'm not prepped. I'm not planned, but you know what? I'll be the one standing and soul will be my family. I know that was certainty because God told me literally in my quiet time, one-on-one that my family's already protected. So the difference. Right. And you may not be there yet. And that's fine. Practice as surrender prayer. Just do it repeatedly. You get good at things that you practice. Before it, you're going to start to feel the peace on the inside. Yeah. 

 Joah
 Hey, before we moved to super awesome tool, I love this dude. Before we go to step number seven, can I make a compassion? Like. 

 Joseph
 Sure. I mean. 

 Joah
 The show are you. 

 Joseph
 Catholic? Let's go. 

 Joah
 Father. No, I'm not actually, but I, I love you dude. And I got combustion made great. Guys are listening and they're like, this Josh guy sounds like of bad-ass I'm drinking coffee. I iced coffee out of a straw. So. 

 Joseph
 I looked and I was going to judge you. That's a little fufu, 

 Joah
 But. 

 Joseph
 Whatever. I'm like, he's telling me he's a bad-ass. The evidence that I see a straw in his mouth, it's almost like a pacifier. Not kidding God. 

 Joah
 Right? All you guys like, listen man, ice, coffee, straw. 

 Joseph
 I got my latte. 

 Joah
 It's black coffee, but it's out of a straw. I just realized I was, as I was watching myself in the video, I was like, dude, you're saying how tough you are. You're drinking black coffee out of a straw. All right. Number seven. 

 Joseph
 All right. By the way, that's surrender prayer. We have a male name for it. Like a manly masculine name. It's called the catapult in my coaching because it's literally a catapult hurls, heavy objects at fast speeds up into the air. Right? So that's what we do. The surrender prayer hurls, the heavy rocks that are crushing. You literally fast up into the air, up to heaven. Never to be seen or heard from again, the gone permanently. Just want to put that in there. Right? We don't use these feminine terms. We used manly. 

 Joah
 Throw these big ass rocks up. Let's. 

 Joseph
 Go. All right. So step seven. Finally. Eager expectation. Eager expectation. Well, this means, I mean, Josh, what do you got? How many you got any boys? Yeah. Nissan's. 

 Joah
 Got a. 

 Joseph
 Boy. You got a middle. 

 Joah
 Child. What's. 

 Joseph
 His name? Zeke kill. That's a biblical name. 

 Joah
 He's a bad-ass. 

 Joseph
 All right. A mini bad-ass. Let's go. All right. So Z keel. Have you ever seen him when you make a promise to him? Like son tomorrow, I'm gonna take you to the pool sign tomorrow. We're going to go to the zoo tomorrow. We're going to go on the gold. 

 Joah
 Car. 

 Joseph
 Yes, 

 Joah
 Dad. You promised. Right. All. 

 Joseph
 Right. Do you see in his eyes what you would call eager expectation. Yeah. Yeah. You really do. Don't ya and any father out there knows what that looks like. But as adults, as grown men, we don't think we're allowed to do that anymore. Our heavenly father wants to see that twinkle in our eyes where we look up to him and say, God, you promised let's go eager. Expectation means that brother, you expect only good things from God because you're his son. And he loves you. If you're a good father to your own kids will, then God's an even better father to you. You can put your expectation on him and you don't just expect God to show up with little movements and little progress and little improvement in the areas you asked for. No, see eager expectation means just like your son, Josh, you expect Superman, daddy to freaking move the earth for you. 

 Joseph
 You expect miracles. You expect miracles. Even if it looks naive, you expect God to perform miracles in your mess. When you surrender that mess to him, God, I'm expecting a miracle in my marriage. I know my marriage is on the brink of divorce. I know my wife has already threatened that she's leaving. I don't know how to change father, but I know I need to. I'm expecting man, I'm following this. I'm doing what Joseph's saying right now, what Josh is saying right now. I'm expecting, y'all going to shift it and do something that I've never seen before. That when it moves, when the miracle happens in the mess that everyone around me sees, I can't even take credit for it because nobody would believe me because before God BC, my life looked like crap. Or this area looked like crap and I was crushed. After I surrendered and God took over and I believed in, I waited and I have eager expectation. 

 Joseph
 God, you did a miracle. Now I'm not going to boast in me. I'm a boast, a new father. This is what God wants. The king wants his princes to boast in him in his power, not theirs because as Christians, we believe that everything is possible with God. That means you must expect miracle. Otherwise you don't actually believe everything's possible with God. Why would you think small and one small and pray for small if everything's possible. You believe that you can do all things with God who strengthens you. That means with God's power. When I teach you how to access it in a way that shifts everything, you can actually literally turn the trajectory, shift the trajectory of your marriage, your parenting, your addictions, your hopelessness, your despair, all of it in an instant. See, I don't believe transformation that needs to take years. Years and years, I watch it daily happen in a moment. 

 Joseph
 The moment a man makes the definitive decision and I show him the blind spot. We create new possibilities together in that specific area of their life. Everything just shifts because he shifts on the inside and then he shows up different on the outside and then attracts completely different results in the world. Did that make sense? So those are the seven steps. Let's recap. We've got ownership, responsibility, leadership, surrender belief, perseverance expectation. 

 Joah
 Does that spell something? Just wondering, 

 Joseph
 I tried to make it an acronym. I wasn't good enough. 

 Joah
 Well word smart little wordsmith. I can't even say it will wordsmith this. 

 Joseph
 If you could turn it into something, but see, they have to go in that order. That's the issue. Otherwise, I can make a word like hippopotamus. I don't know. 

 Joah
 So that's a challenge. So dude, we gotta, we got it. 

 Joseph
 We're on the buzzer. Let's go. Let's be. Yeah. 

 Joah
 So let's do this. Let's do this call out, man, for dude right there. Who's like, yeah, I need help. Right? This isn't for the guys who are like, Hey, I got this. All right. Step seven. All right, I'm going to go do this. Check back in with you. Yeah. There's one guy out there who goes, I need f*****g help right now, Joseph, where can I go to get help? 

 Joseph
 Awesome. I want to give you a gift brother. If you're ready to move right now. A new book. I've actually been referencing it a peace and purpose. Seven steps to master your anger and stress, right? We just spoke about the seven steps, but I go deeper. You got real life men, just like you. Christian husbands, dads and business owners that do in seven, eight figures in their businesses. They would go and home miserable, anxious, angry, stressed the F out before they started working with me. We moved them from angry and stress to peace and purpose in their life. So their stories are in this book. I'm going to give you this book for free. Go to free purpose book.com, free purpose book.com. Grab a copy of the book. 100% free. It's an easy read for men. I'll take you one sitting, just cover the shipping and I will cover the book. 

 Joseph
 That's the deal. Cover the shipping. I'll cover the book. I'll put skin in your, the game of your life. You put skin into your own recovery and your own healing. So that's the first thing. If you're a man that's like Joseph, I'm going to get the book. Absolutely. But what does it look like? I am already successful in my business. I'm doing 7, 8, 9 figures already. I want to be your next one-on-one client. I want to work with the best. I don't want to waste my time with the rest. I want to work with the best while you may be ready for one-on-one coaching with me. I only take 12 guys per year. I work with 12 guys a year and the elite one-on-one coaching space. If you're ready for that, go-to free purpose. Call.com free purpose call.com. You can schedule a call with me. 

 Joseph
 Do not apply for that. If you are not already successful, you're not ready to make a significant investment into your own healing and recovery. You're not actually ready to change and admit that you need it. Right? So don't waste my time. Don't waste yours. If you're a man that's like Joseph, I can't do that big investment. I'm just on that place in my life. I'm doing less than six figures or I'm just right at the six figure mark. Well, we have something for you too. We're about to launch the new men's mastermind, a blow a Brock's men's mastermind. This is where you'll get to do the coaching and do my 12 step program. It's not the AA one, by the way, it's my own actual one, right? You get to do my blow up rocks, 12 step program with other men, just like you. You're going to benefit from iron sharpens iron and dealing with other men. 

 Joseph
 They're going to raise their concerns and their rocks. You're going to feel, wow, I'm not alone in this. This is awesome. Let's go. I want to win with these men. Well, if that's of interest to you can apply for an audition and audition call and you can go get that@blowuprocks.com, blowup Brock's dot com. I hope I served a you men. Well, we gave you a teaser to pull you in to ignite that one, man, who's ready for all the other men that are not ready. Like Josh said, Hey, listen, there's nothing wrong with you. I want to be clear. There's nothing wrong with you. You just got rock standing in front of you, but until you're ready to admit that the rocks are actually there and stop escaping your own life and living in the fantasy land, you can either choose to do that right now and admit it, or life will show up and kick you in the teeth and you'll lose everything. 

 Joseph
 You've worked so hard to achieve and acquire, and then you'll be ready, but it'll be too late to work with me because she'll be gone. The kids will be gone. The one nothing to do with you'll lose half your fortune. It's up to you. It's up to you. That is the very real future for you. If you're in that situation right now. So Josh, thanks so much, man. It's been great dude, 

 Joah
 Dudes as always reach out to our guests. I thank you for being on the show. Listen, do not, do not do not suffer alone. Like if you guys are struggling with something, reach out to me on sensor device for men.com. There's a little microphone in the bottom contact button at the top. I'll plug it in with any one of our past guests or whatever, or go directly to the show notes of the guests. The episode that's important to you reach out to that person. Say, I need help today. I need help. Immediately do that before it gets too bad. I love you guys. If, if you in the audience have something to talk to guys about an uncensored way, we've talked to, porn stars, pastors kind of everything in between. If you have some advice for guys and you want to share it, head on over to uncensored advice for men.com, fill out a quick form, get you on the show next till then. 

 Joah
 I'd love you guys to talk to you all on the next episode. Peace.