Aug. 3, 2022

Good Wood with Brian Ayers


Brian “Uncle B” Ayers is a men’s sexual performance coach with over 22 years
of experience. His research into men’s sexual health lead him to create the
Men’s Sexual Performance Scale and the revolutionary ESEIS 25 sexual health
program along with 2 books, How To Be A Better Lover In 30 Days or Less and
Go Hard.
Brian started his coaching journey as the
performance coach for African Fly, the liquid
aphrodisiac. After talking with 1000’s of
men he noted that some would have success
with African Fly while others would not. The
difference was in what they were doing to
supplement the supplement.
In 2019, Brian started sharing his knowledge on YouTube. He now has over
150k subscribers with 8.5 million minutes of watch time. He connects with
people by showing an easy way to build lifelong health without relying on
medications. He focuses on helping people build stronger relationships by
having superior health for a fulfilling sex life. Brian keeps the show funny,
engaging and very serious…like an Uncle is supposed to. He brings that same
energy to interviews as well.

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Transcript

Josh Wilson
 Good day fellows. Welcome to uncensored advice for men. My name's Josh. I'm the, I'm the host, but I'm a professional dude. I've been at it for 40 years and I'm still figuring s**t out. This show has helped a lot because I get free counseling, free coaching from dudes. And, and I get to ask all the questions that pop into my brain and that you guys are probably thinking too. We've interviewed pastors, porn stars, kind of everything in between and the topic that comes up a lot. When you guys are asking, actually, guys, don't ask this question a lot, but I know you're thinking it's around sex, health, and things in our mindset. So, so I figured I'd bring on some sex Burts. With that, Brian is a YouTube sensation with over nine and a half million views over a hundred thousand, 155,000 subscribers. 


 Josh Wilson
 And just currently got the plaque. This guy's just balling Brian, welcome to the show. Balling Brian, welcome to the show. 


 Brian Ayers
 Thank you. Thank you very much. Actually on my channel, I'm also referred as to his uncle B because I talked to guys like your uncle would talk to you. I will tell you, tell it to you straight. I will still show up at the family reunion, eating up all your mom's potato salad. 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. You like potato salad. 


 Brian Ayers
 It depends on who made. Who's making it. 


 Josh Wilson
 Mama makes it then yeah, 


 Brian Ayers
 There you go. 


 Josh Wilson
 Sounds good. All right. Uncle B, I might call you uncle B depends. You're not the creepy uncle, right? 


 Brian Ayers
 Okay, 


 Josh Wilson
 Cool. But we're going to talk about sex. We're hanging out at a coffee shop or barbecue or a restaurant or wherever we're hanging out and there's a bunch of dudes. It's just you're right. I go, Hey guys, I want you to, I want to introduce you to my friend, Brian, and they go, cool, man. Hey Brian, what do you do? 


 Brian Ayers
 I am a widow allergist. I'm I'm a sexual performance coach. Basically what that means is I, I, I do dive into the health side of things, but it's also a question of, what is your erection levels? Like, what is causing it? If you don't have the erections that you used to have, or you just never got there, or what is it that needs to happen in your daily life in order for that to come about? He turned that stuck on using, the Viagras and the different pharmaceuticals, or even running to the gas station constantly until that stops working for you. You're just laying there in the bed, looking confused as to why things aren't working. 


 Josh Wilson
 Come on, buddy. Work for me, give it a little pep, talk a little, , 


 Brian Ayers
 Exactly. Never, never respond to what you want. So, 


 Josh Wilson
 So let me ask you this question. All right. So we're hanging out. Let's just say we're not in a public place, but we're hanging out at a friend's barbecue or something like that. You asked that dude, what are your erections like? That, is that what you asked guys? 


 Brian Ayers
 Actually, I, I, I came up with the men's sexual performance scale. We've got a scale from one to 10. 10 means everything works this huge morning erection. A one means you need to go to the hospital. Most guys I deal with are between five and a seven, which means different levels of being unreliable. So, just walking down this scale, the 10 is morning erection is nine, a spontaneous erections. Eight is erections on demand. Seven is unreliable. As you know, some days it's good. Some days it's not six means you have to do some work for it to be good, five minutes. You need to do a lot of work to be good in five and six, you can actually lose your erection during sex 4, 3, 2, 1. Those are all different degrees of ed. I've been actually, I'm working with a guy right now. 


 Brian Ayers
 Who's at a zero. Yeah, all of that's, that's how it, yeah. A lot of times I just, I came up with a scale because I would ask a whole bunch of questions and finally just came down to it. Like, what are you after? I just told you that, where are you on that scale? And they would let me know. We can go from there. 


 Josh Wilson
 Just to warn you in all the audience, I laugh when I get nervous. Talking about d***s and interactions and such like that, it brings me back to like wrestling day or being a firefighter back in the firehouse where you're making all these jokes, I get nervous. The way I deal with nervousness is I laugh or I, I say inappropriate stuff, or I make jokes. This is a serious matter. There's a lot of dudes that are experienced in this kind of stuff. I've had whiskey whiskey, Dick, in situations in the past. I'm super happy to talk about this. I just want to throw the little disclaimer out there. 


 Brian Ayers
 And make them the inappropriate comments. I like those. Those are fun. 


 Josh Wilson
 Those are fun. Right? So, the purpose and mission of the show is to help dudes and to lift people up. We all have different things that we're working through in width. With that, let me just say, Hey guys, I'd love you. I don't, whatever number you are on that scale. And we're not talking size here. Right. Whatever number you are on that scale, I love you. And this shows for you. So back to you, Brian, that's weird. I normally don't have to throw out this disclosures, but I laughed and I, I feel weird about it. Do you ever feel weird talking about like this w when you were a kid where you're like, I want to work with erections when I grow up? Like, yeah, 


 Brian Ayers
 Absolutely not. But I will say this. I mean, it took a while. I've been doing this for 23 years now. It took a while to get to a point where I'm like completely comfortable with it, because I talk about it constantly. After you have, once you hear the seriousness from the number of guys who like losing relationships, they have a wives stepping out on them. They won't start a relationship, want to have kids, but can't, all the serious things that come about from it, then you realize that, okay. It's and I think the reasoning why it was, a joke, it was funny before was because in the 1940s, the number of men with erectile dysfunction was like 3%. And now we're talking about roughly 50%. Depending on your age, so you, and so, it went from like, yeah, you're not working ha to like, you're not working either. 


 Brian Ayers
 So, the conversation just needs to change. A lot of times what people will say is that guys don't like talking about that. That's not my experience. As soon as we start talking about it, I got guys who won't shut up. I mean, I've done, I do one-on-one coaching and counseling. And, at one point when I opened up the flood gates and just had, just, if you wanted to hop on with me, we'd do a quick 15 minute session because I really want guys to, get this stuff straightened up in their lives. What would end up happening is the 15 minute session would get extended to like 35. Like, look, I gotta get off again. I've got another person and, or I need to charge you for this session. But, it's gotten to a point now where it's going to get worse. One of the things we mentioned briefly before this is that we're now at a point where 30% of men under 30 are not having sex virgins in sales, some of them, and then you have above that, you have guys who are in by the year 20, 30, 20, 35, they're saying that a huge number of men are going to not be able to reproduce. 


 Brian Ayers
 Obviously we get more serious when it comes to that, because we're talking about, yeah, your son may not be able to give you a grandson, your granddaughter. I mean, your daughter may that be able to have a child because you can't find someone to meet with who can produce erections and or sperm. So, that's the part where it's like, Ooh, let's pay attention. Yeah. Yeah, I do a lot of shows with a podcast with women because for a lot of women, they don't understand this whole process either. They're just like, well, I just show up, take off my clothes. And he's supposed to be erect. It's like, yeah, that was good. When he was like 18, 19 20, now he's 42 going on 52. That's not going to be as, as clear. I still like to have fun with it. I mean, it's not all gloom and doom because there are things you can do to straighten all of this stuff out. 


 Brian Ayers
 And that's what I teach. 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. Super cool. What ologists, like when I heard, oh, you're going to interview a what ologists? I'll say, no, we're going to talk about woodworking. Maybe you're a loopier I don't know, but no, we're talking about d***s. You're chat with someone and you're like, Hey, man, on this scale are w w has any guy ever gone? Like, Hey man, check this out. Like, just like stood up and just pull this junk out. 


 Brian Ayers
 No, no, no. I'm, I'm only five foot 10, but I'm sizeable. So I let them know quick. Like, yo, that's not cool, dude. 


 Josh Wilson
 I. 


 Brian Ayers
 Mean, I'll be honest with you. I was sorta worried about that when I first started, it's not something that, I'm on YouTube. It was a slow process for me to get comfortable being on YouTube with my face there. People do recognize me out, but when they, because they've consumed my content and they know the way that I am, even with the content, it's like, yeah, I'm having fun with it. I'll joke, kid and play like any uncle would, but when it's time to like tell you the truth, like put your Dick up really quick. And. 


 Josh Wilson
 We were about to get popped, dude stepping away from me. 


 Brian Ayers
 Yeah. Because if you will stick it out there, I may kick it. Let's see how far it goes. 


 Josh Wilson
 All right. Uncle B, what other nicknames have guys called you? 


 Brian Ayers
 Oh, doctor, you know, Dick ologists. I, that one is like, no, we're going to go with allergists. I'm not concerned. I'm walking down the deck, walking down the street. Hey, that's uncle ass. 


 Josh Wilson
 I don't have five. Don't shake hands with them. Unless he watched us to say, you don't know what he does. 


 Brian Ayers
 Exactly. What's your mass call. 


 Josh Wilson
 All right, bro. You and I. How old are you? 


 Brian Ayers
 51. 


 Josh Wilson
 All right, cool. I'm I'm 40. You and I go back in time and we're hanging out in middle school and I show your future. I'm like, Hey bro, check this out in the future. You're going to be with ologists. What would you have said. 


 Brian Ayers
 Was the widow allergist? 


 Josh Wilson
 I said the same thing. 


 Brian Ayers
 Yeah. I mean, I'd be like not cause I, I have all entrepreneur at heart, so I had all types of things. The reason, the way I became a sexual performance coaches, because we had a product still have the product it's called African flag is an all natural liquid aphrodisiac. Basically increases your testosterone and increases your blood flow. And you know, it works. I've been selling that for 23 years and the product works, but it didn't work for everyone. We're talking about the vast majority of guys. I mean, we only have like a 1% return rate and we have thousands of testimonials. It works, but it was like, why doesn't it work for these other guys? That's when, over the years of doing, after doing interviews and doing surveys, research, et cetera, it just came down to, well, it's a supplement it's supposed to supplement the other things you're doing. 


 Brian Ayers
 What are the other things that you're doing? So, I've had guys do crazy stuff. I'm talking about a long period of time. So I hear it all. It was like, yeah, I was taking an African flour with a Hennessy and it really didn't work for me. It was like, okay, you're taking it because you have an issue. You're going to add alcohol to it. A supplement is not supposed to go with alcohol. That's just sort of easy to understand. But for some guys, they just don't. If you don't know the information, you'll just keep doing what you assume is okay. That's when you run into a problem. Over the years I came up with a program, we call it easiest 25. It's an acronym for E S E I S energy, sleep, exercise, intermittent, fasting, and soul. These five areas, you're able to set goals for yourself into improve in these five areas. 


 Brian Ayers
 If you do all five in the same day and you're improving, you're going on the upward spiral. So, I came up with a system so the guys can take African flat and understand you need to be doing something in these or paying attention at the very least to these five categories, these five categories will work as a human for male 2000 years ago, 200 years from now, because this is the primary way that we work. Once you understand, it's like, for example, sleep, I've had guys like, yeah, I work out constantly. I switched to being a vegetarian and it's still not where it used to be. It's like, okay, how much sleep are you getting? Well, I get a good four hours of sleep at night. It's like, oh, well, here we go. Your testosterone forms while you're asleep and you need, it's not necessarily eight hours, but it's the level of quality of sleep that you get so easily above six hours of sleep that you need. 


 Brian Ayers
 If you're not doing that, if you're, sitting at exercising for two hours and you get four hours of sleep, well, you're only getting half of the benefit of your workout. If you don't understand that process, then you're, there are guys who are like, yeah, I've been doing all this stuff. I haven't been, it isn't working for me and even small things, I, for intermittent fasting, with intermittent fasting, once you start, once you get started doing that, your testosterone, especially guys who don't know intermittent fasting means basically a 16 hour window where you do not eat and you eat during an eight hour window. Basically you skipped breakfast and why you're waking up, you skip that breakfast and you just drinking water or unsweetened coffee or unsweetened tea. Your body is deadly building up the testosterone that you need, your human growth, hormone levels are going up. 


 Brian Ayers
 So, and if you're doing that's a great thing. I was working with a guy and he was like, Hey, I'm doing an intermittent fasting, but I'm not seeing the results. And I was like, oh crap. I forgot to mention this. Are you brushing your teeth? He was like, yeah. I was like, what are you brushing your teeth with cocaine? I was like, oh crap. My fault, man. I to switch to baking soda because yeah, sugar. Yeah. You're basically coding the inside of your mouth with sugar. I'm still at a loss as to why Tuesdays have like, 


 Josh Wilson
 Did you buy more toothpaste? If you have yellow teeth? It's a, it's a cycle dude. You went through these way too fast for my hands to write though. Cause I'm taking notes, right? What are the five areas that you focus on? Improving? 


 Brian Ayers
 Sure. Energy, sleep, exercise, intermittent, fasting and soul. 


 Josh Wilson
 Soul. 


 Brian Ayers
 Yes. Soul soul is the, how you as an individual interpret the outside world. Just like two people can get on ER on a roller coaster. One person thinks it's this terrifying. The other person thinks it's absolute fun. You could switch to two people at any time. It's like, the person who's, that same person that loves it. You can get them when they're older and they feel the shaking of it. It's like, they don't feel comfortable in their own body. Now it's terrifying. Whereas before, when they were young, this was fun. So, it was how you interpret the outside world. A lot of that has to do with how you're dealing with your own body. One of the things I say is that 80, the 80 20 rule of sexual performance. So for men 80%, it's physical. That's the reason why you have the exercise, sleep, energy, sleep, exercise, and intermittent fasting. 


 Brian Ayers
 Those are all physical things. The other fifth thing, 20%, that's your soul. So obviously this can change. It can fluctuate, but if you're not taking care of your, that 80%, then obviously it's going to have an effect on your soul. It's like, okay, I, I'm not taking care of my body and I'm not getting erections. My wife is looking at me funny, I'm looking at myself funny. Now you're walking through your entire day is like, I'm at work. It's like, yeah, this is a great day. She wants me to come home and today's Friday. She likes to, so your whole day, your week, your thought processes are being overshadowed by that 20%. It's good to, understand that you take care of your entire body and this other piece of it, it's, it is your entire body. A lot of times we like to separate our brain from our body, but it's all one unit. 


 Brian Ayers
 The opposite side of that can happen too. You've put yourself into a very stressful situation, not put yourself. You're just in a very stressful situation and your cortisol goes up and that means your testosterone levels are going down, which means that you're less likely to be, to have an erection or to want sex, et cetera. Once you understand these different things and understand, I think this is the most important part is that your men give life, women give birth men give life. So what we're actually giving is energy. In order to give energy, you have to have energy. If you are sick, mother nature is interesting like this. If you're sick, there's no need for you to be passing on sperm at this time. That's why if you're sick, you, it's hard to get an erection or even having a reaction at all in. If your, your cardiovascular is gone, you're not taking care of your body at all. 


 Brian Ayers
 No erections, because mother nature doesn't want you to pass on your weakness at this point. There's this. 


 Josh Wilson
 Interesting. I never thought of that. Let me ask you a question, dude. 


 Brian Ayers
 Sure. 


 Josh Wilson
 In, in this, the biggest challenge that I see for men to raise their hand to go, Hey, I need help. Is their manhood. Right? Like we put a lot around the manhood and, and our Dingaling, right. From locker rooms, like when you're young and you're like, oh, I hope nobody sees me. And then you get older, right. Insecurities around our manhood getting up or how big all of the above. I've interviewed, like I said, porn stars. And we've talked about these things openly. Like at what point do guys pivot and then talk with you, like what happens in their world, where they go, okay, I'll need help. Like, they open the phone book and they, erections and they find your name and they call you like, what happens to make them call you. 


 Brian Ayers
 Typically, they hit a, typically what happens is you don't pay attention until something happens to makes you pay attention. So, what happens is, at 21 you were at the top of the scale, you are, you have your morning erections. Then, you stop even thinking about your morning erections, but then your spontaneous erections go. You get to a point where, you used to be, she would just walk in a room and you'd have an erection now. It's like, oh, that's not happening anymore. That point where you're like, okay, we're having sex. I stopped happening, erection or try to get up again. And that didn't happen. One day it was good the next day. It wasn't. It's usually when they start hitting that unreliable stage of things where it's like, a level of, okay, I'd rather be embarrassed talking to uncle B than MBA in that situation again. 


 Josh Wilson
 Cool. Yeah. 


 Brian Ayers
 That's where it starts. The phone starts ringing as it were. Yeah. 


 Josh Wilson
 This is kind of side rail question, but like, all right, you help talk about, you talked about erections and how guys could increase the opportunity, and improve their sex life. What about on the flip side? Like, like when you're like young kid or, 13 years old and you just start getting b****s and you're, you're wearing khakis, you're at church, they ask you to, everybody stands up and you're like, I can't stand up right now. Like what about on the flip side where you can like, do you teach like mindset and where you could actually control, pop up or pop down? Can you, can you actually control the reverse? 


 Brian Ayers
 Well, it's spontaneous as spontaneous. Basically even with the spontaneous, there was a thought process somewhere you may have just not even just what you have in church. You know that one you're 13 and have no idea what a meal is, but for some reason she walked by and now all of a sudden, why am I no past that? I don't want to stand up, 


 Josh Wilson
 Stand up. So, 


 Brian Ayers
 The, so yeah, even, so the thing that in today's environment, that's less of an issue. If you having spontaneous the Russians at 13, I talked to 18 year olds. Now I talked to 17 year olds. I have a client who's he's 28. And, he just noticed it, it was like, it took a while before it, and that's the reason for coaching. It took a while before he would say like, oh, well, yeah, I do drink more than I need to. I was like, well, duh, ding, ding, that's the answer right there. Everything else was going to them. You could always improve, but is necessary for human. For male health is necessary for you to have an erection. They call it a Canary in the coal mine. As in, for those guys who don't know back in the day when they were in coal mine, where they still are, but the hair canaries because the canaries could smell poison gases faster than men could in humans. 


 Brian Ayers
 Can't. What would end up happening if there was a poisonous gas leak in the coal mine, that the canaries would just trip drip, drip, as soon as I can, every went silent time to get out. The same thing with your erections, as soon as your erection start going down and get silent, it's time to get, call me, hop on to my YouTube page and, check out the 300 videos that I have and, get it figured out. So, if you're not paying attention to your erections, you're not paying attention to your health. One person wrote in the comment section one time, it was like, Hey guys, he was trying to fool you into being healthy by talking about your erections. I was like, 


 Josh Wilson
 Gotcha. 


 Brian Ayers
 I know, I know for a fact, if I tell the guys like, Hey, you get high quality sleep, you'll have, it's great for your health. I mean, meal, nothing happens like, Hey, you get high-quality sleep. You get your morning erections. Like really it wasn't high quality. How long should I sleep? And what else would I be done? 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. Where do I sign up? How much do you want? Right. Here's my credit card. 


 Brian Ayers
 There we go. 


 Josh Wilson
 It comes to paying attention to, to your junk and I'm going to see how many nicknames I can like, right. Like think through as we're talking. It comes to pay attention to it, like what are some signs and symptoms that people could like say, oh man, maybe I do have an issue. Right? What are some things that you see that from the guys that are like, okay, you should pay attention. 


 Brian Ayers
 It's a, it's an indicator state. So it's pretty simple. It's like, it's either getting up or it's not. When I say getting up, was it 90%, 95% of men m********e at some point in their labs. So it was. 


 Josh Wilson
 Like 10% lie. 


 Brian Ayers
 Exactly, exactly. So, so it's like, yeah, how you are, what size have been, should be in. So, if you were, a lot of times guys don't pay attention to their morning erections a lot, as don't pay attention to spontaneous directions. So, because those are just random, you wake up and you're, out of bed, you're running around and doing, trying to get ready for work. You haven't paid attention to whether or not you have a, an erection or not, but when it comes to, the erections on demand, that's what I try to get all of my clients to at the very least, because when you have an irrational demand, it's like, I can just sit there and close my eyes and think of something and I can have an erection. At the very least, you're working for guys who have erectile. Dysfunction is actually as a tape test, it's hard to describe, without having a model here, but basically you are able to. 


 Josh Wilson
 Have model penises. 


 Brian Ayers
 No, no, I don't. 


 Josh Wilson
 Those are called d****s brother. 


 Brian Ayers
 Use your own imagination for this one. As the process for it was like, basically you're trying to see whether or not you have, you're having an erection while you're asleep. Yeah. If you're having an erection while you're asleep, you're physically able to have an erection. Maybe there's more of a mental side to things. Even on the soul side, there's a mental side too, in terms of like, a lot of times when guys will recognize as the issue is when they're with their partner and they were like, Hey, as be having an erection right now, what's going on. Issue can be, you start hitting that seven to eight, you become one at seven, you becoming unreliable. The first time it happens, you're like, oh shoot, I must've been stressed out. I was eating something, blah, blah. The next time it happens. It was her fault. She didn't turn me on it. 


 Brian Ayers
 Whatever. Th after that, it's like, you start doing, what's called spectators. That's when you were actually thinking that, okay, she's coming back, I should have an erection. She just came in. I should have an erection. She took her clothes off. I should have an erection. She's touching me and should have an erection. It was like your, what is happening is that you're actually stressing yourself out. You're you never thought about that before, but now all of a sudden you're thinking about it all the time. 


 Josh Wilson
 Performance, anxiety, right? 


 Brian Ayers
 Yes. You're literally becoming self-conscious by just thinking about yourself. It's like, yeah, first of all, calm down, stop with the spectator ring and make sure the other four areas, in terms of your health is being taken care of and you're going to be okay. There's other things that you need to understand such as, your testosterone levels are highest in the morning. That's the reason why, morning erections happen. It goes down by 20% throughout the day. If you're, if you already have a stressed calendar, and that means just going down by more than 20%, just naturally, if you're stressed out, you had almost the worst meats. You can have bologna sandwich with a beer that, beers full of estrogen. And so, and you were stressed out. That's the reason why you had to be by the time you in the morning time, you were at a hundred percent. 


 Brian Ayers
 By the evening time you were at 40%. 


 Josh Wilson
 So you're saying beers, the b***r killer. 


 Brian Ayers
 Oh yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Alcohol alcohol is a poison that happens to make us feel woozy. That's the fun part of the bougieness is like, oh yeah, this is great. It's, you know, it's killing your testosterone. Also sugar does so sugar lowers your testosterone by a good half an hour. If you're healthy, if the, the older you are the less healthy, you are the longer that effect last. Always say a good example of this is Valentine's day. Valentine's day what's going on at first, you got stressed that, it's going to happen at night. It's going down. She's letting then there's the other stress you've got to impress her with, oh, here's the chocolate and here's some candy. So you're dealing with that. You had a piece of chocolate yourself. It's like, Ooh, that's not a good one, but okay, now let's go to dinner. You want to go to a nice restaurant and like me stressed out about this little bill here, but okay, now you get to steak and lobster, in the mashed potatoes, all that are causing inflammation in your body. 


 Brian Ayers
 Now, blood flow needs to go to your penis. You got inflammation issues. Then, of course, to get the dessert, you want to add of dessert and you get to one. You get to the poison right there, and then you have to go perform. Yeah. The perfect scenario for us, f**k up. Not even a f**k up as the f**k down. It's not getting the way that you want it to work. So, so yeah, it's a complicated process. I mean, once again, you're giving life and the issue really isn't about men. The issues are environment. So think about it this way. Just 100 years ago, less than 50% of the United States had electricity. So completely different life. That also meant that breakfast. Wasn't a thing all the way up until the 1930s, people drank a cup of coffee and went to work. There was no such thing as a breakfast to me, think about it in order to have the breakfast we consider normal. 


 Brian Ayers
 Now you have to have a refrigerator. Otherwise you have some warm milk, your eggs and that, where are you getting the eggs from? You can't store the eggs. You can't have the ham or the hamburger or the bacon or any of these things. So breakfast, wasn't a thing. Even before you got up to go to breakfast, when you were sleeping close to the ground. For a lot of people who were sleeping on the ground. There's literally a change in your, in the ions, in your body. So they actually separate the blood platelets. You actually, your blood flow is better when you're actually on the ground, touching the ground, the dirt, the earth is actually a battery for us. Also the sun, 80% of your vitamin D comes from the sun. If you're inside, like I am right now, I haven't been outside only because it's DC and it's 190 degrees outside. 


 Brian Ayers
 Yeah, don't need that much sun. If you're missing a vitamin D is actually a hormone. It's vital in the, in changing into testosterone. So you're going to sleep wrong. You waking up at a, at a stress level, cause your alarm clock. You can go out and you're eating the breakfast. Sugar is actually new to the human experience. It's only been around for 1400 years. So before that there was no sugar. Sugar was a crystallized molasses discovered in discover, created india and then spread throughout the world. Now it's like, Hey, along with, the eggs and the things that didn't exist a while ago, I'm also gonna throw in some sugar, that's going to mess with my system. And then, you know, stress levels. We yelling at thing, get your phone out, start yelling at people who aren't in the room. I don't even like him. Can't even see the person. 


 Brian Ayers
 We're doing a lot of things that are just completely unnatural, even walking. We don't walk as much. A walking by itself, it uses fat as a fuel. If you don't, in terms of fat, if you're over 25% body fat, then you're more likely to have erection issues. So it's complicated. It's complicated only from the standpoint that we have to unlearn everything that we've been practicing for years, all the way down to sitting down for hours at a time. So, that actually cuts off blood flow to where we need to go. That's a lot of things going on, 


 Josh Wilson
 Dude. What does your mother think you do for work? 


 Brian Ayers
 Well, she knows what I do. She sees, she sees a YouTube videos and she's, she's supportive. Cause it's like, when are you going to make those millions like, Hey man, 


 Josh Wilson
 Working on a mom, 


 Brian Ayers
 And for my mom, it was actually easier. My father he's very much into the church and things like that. Yeah, I think it, by the time I got to being on YouTube, it was, I'm not playing around is I got the information and I love doing this because I'm learning the information. Certain things that, recommending it's like, I literally do the research and it's like, oh my God, really? I mean the whole thing about the earth itself, being a battery, just take your shoes off and stand there for 40 minutes. You're literally going to separate, it's better than medicine in order to get your blood flow glowing going. I was like, oh my God. I actually went out and put my feet on the ground. And I thought about it. I said, when's the last time I actually had my feet in the grass. 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. We're talking in the grass, not on concrete. Hey, I went outside with bare feet. No, you're just like, I went to seven 11 with no shoes on. Now that doesn't count. 


 Brian Ayers
 Yeah. Even going into seven 11 is nothing but shock, salt, sugar and corn. 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. 


 Brian Ayers
 All preservatives. Grocery stores, it's a one hour of actual food. The rest of it is all dead food. I'll talk about, there's two only two types, only food, two food groups, laugh, food and dead food, live food is plants, vegetables, things that humans have been eating well, 100 years before, 100 years ago before the food industry took over and was like, yeah, we're to preserve everything. So we can sit on the shelves. We can ship it from wherever. It will sit there for like another two years. We can sell it before that you had to go outside and pluck an apple. Pull something up out of the ground or wash it off and eat it. No one which leaves to eat, know which herbs work for you. The interesting thing is with our technology, we actually get smart, dumb. So we, 


 Josh Wilson
 We, 


 Brian Ayers
 Everything that led up to us having this technology also at the same time was training us to do really stupid things. So yeah. 


 Josh Wilson
 It's crazy. 


 Brian Ayers
 Fun. 


 Josh Wilson
 All the fun. One thing that we should chat about is all right, so the guy has massive, performance issue or, concerns, anxiety, and Valentine's day situation. All right. She's calming in, come on, buddy. Get up there. Right. What about from the women's perspective? You said you've talked with a lot of women, about penises and the situations that guys are having from their perspective, what have you heard? 


 Brian Ayers
 A lot of us knew a lot of it's that they, that when I said the 80, 20 performance rule for women, that 80% is all mental. That's all, how they feel about it. That 20% is, as long as there's no pain in his lubrication, then it's like, you can have sex. They're not concerned about what they eat right before sex. They're not, they don't have a member that needs to move so they can drink, they can eat, they can do whatever they want to. If they don't understand that their man is different, they will literally be like, say, Hey, come on, let's go out and eat. They go out and eat and when you're in your twenties, maybe that works out well. They just think of, okay, this is going to be the way it works for the rest of your life. Even some men think that's the way it's supposed to work for the rest of the lab. 


 Brian Ayers
 You hit, forties, fifties, and it's like, no, absolutely not. So, understanding that if you want to understanding to do the anti Valentine's day thing, it was like, Hey, Hey, bring me some, what's the edibles, they're the edible bouquets and things like that, with some fruits and things like that. Oh yeah. Have him bring you that. You both can share in that, encouraged to exercise, encourage to sleep, encourage, encourage him to understand himself. I think more importantly, encourage him to understand himself so he can translate that to his son or even translate to the daughter. I mean, everyone needs to understand this because though, if you don't take care of your body, especially I, I would say if I was, if you're going to have as a man, if you're going to have a child you're planning for it, you need to take the nine months before pregnancy to clear out your body to create the best version of you. 


 Brian Ayers
 You can create the best version of your sperm so that you can have a good child, healthy child. 


 Josh Wilson
 You brought up a, a really good thing that I think we should chat about is this is going to be so weird saying, right. I have a, I have a five-year-old son and a, the other day he got, we're still, we're going to talk about my kid's penis for a minute. So he's going to lose. I don't think he'll ever listen to this, but if he ever does and shout out to my son, I only have one kid. Everyone will know exactly who's penis I'm talking about. He had a, he had his first morning erection and he went to go stand up in the, at the toilet. And he was about to pee. I was like, stop, bro. You got, I was like, he's like, what's going on? You know? Cause he was about to pee on the back of the toilet. I was like, Hey bud, when that happens, I was like, it's perfectly natural. 


 Josh Wilson
 You got to sit down when that kind of happens, you have to point down. And he's like, oh, okay. He peed out the seat thing, but not to give people a graphic image of my kid. Like when is it a good time to start talking to your kids about their penises? Cause my dad never talked to me about my penis. Like he assumed that I figured it out on my own. Right? 


 Brian Ayers
 Yeah. Oh yeah. Well, I mean, my discussion with my father was were, there's a he'll go into the church. There, were going to the churches on the other side of the hill, it was conversation starter. This side of hill ended at the top of the hill. We didn't even get to the front of the church. So I mean, most guys don't know. I mean, that's the truth of the matter. That's the reason why this discussion is if you don't know what to teach, you can't teach. In terms of when you should start talking to them, I would say as a teenager, definitely. Making sure they understand the importance of it. If once again, that Canary in the coal mine, it's your habit. I talk about easiest, it's like what you do every day. So it should be a whole lesson. Like, Hey, you know what? 


 Brian Ayers
 You need to be moving every day. Especially nowadays we've got kids who are like, oh, I'm gonna sit here in my room with my head, looking at this game for hours at a time, completely do new. This has never happened in the history of humankind. The pulses that came was like, boys sitting there reading the comic books for hours, but once they finish with the comic books, you've had to go outside because there wasn't anything else to do. Right now we have to teach knowing you, well, let me not go that deep, but we have to teach all the natural things that you need to be doing in terms of being healthy. That the thing and, explaining to them. I mean, then I always say this whenever talking to kids or, it's like, you're going to tell them, things are not going to get, it's going to go over their head. 


 Brian Ayers
 They're not going to pay attention, but it's not until later I always equate it to like going to church is like, you go to church as a kid, you're hearing all these people upset. Nah, I couldn't pay the rent, but the Lord blessed me with the rent money and all this stuff. You're like, I have no idea what rent is. So I don't get it later on. You're doing the exact same thing. So, so it's like, go ahead and let them know. At some point they're going to go back in their memories like, oh, I don't even know why I feel so compelled to go ahead and like jog every day or lift weights. It was, you planted a seed way back when, so I would say definitely as a teenager and yeah, get the information. I mean the good news is that we have the internet, it's a lot of people who are, who have information, the thing that you want to, of course, like I say to all guys don't rely on just the appeal. 


 Brian Ayers
 Don't rely on just a supplement. You have to do the work. Otherwise you're going to, at some point I've seen this happen several times. Even with Viagara, we guys don't take Viagra to a point with your body's like, Hey look, all right. Viagra discussed the blood flow from leaving out of the penis. The issue was not the blood flow, leaving out of planes, issue of the blood flow, getting into the penis because of inflammation in your blood stem cells and sticky. Just as a point of fact, your capillaries in your blood, I'm sorry, the blood capillaries in your penis are the smallest in the body. We're talking about one blood platelet going through at a time. That's how small it is. You really have to, and also the bursting of burning of testosterone fuels an erection. You need both of those things to be at a high level in order for you to have an erection. 


 Brian Ayers
 I always say, I wish I knew some of this stuff when I was younger. Cause I, I haven't gone through that whole process of like, luckily I had African flag, so it masks a lot of the things that I was doing when I was a good 25, really healthy, was experimenting with the vegan and vegetarian ism. And, just had the, the energy that comes from being that young anyway. Over a period of time, I hit 35 and it was like, Hey, hit seven for the first time. And it was like being unreliable. When I hit like 43, it was like, whoa, why am I sitting here to five, six? It was really when I hit a five when I was 47, oh, hold on, hold up. I'm supposed to know all this stuff. Why am I not doing it? Because, and truly it was because I paid attention more techniques. 


 Brian Ayers
 I was like, there are certain things like, ing where a woman's G-spot is and knowing how you curve and how to, different angles techniques, it wasn't based off of health. When I got to the health side of it, I was like, oh, wow, well, it's not, you can do all the techniques you want to, but if we can't get an erection, none of that makes any sense. Now it's all on the health side. 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. Cause there's the technique, the helicopter to get it up and running. Right. Like you have to kick start that thing sometimes. All right. Let's, let's go tactical. All right. What have you learned that you would say, I'm 40 years old, I've got three kids. I've had sex at least three times in my life, with only one partner, sweetheart fingers crossed. Let me ask you this, what, let's talk tech tactical techniques for improving sexual improving sex. Right. Cause I'm reading your notes, right. It says, what can men do to be a 10 as a sexual performance athletes? So let's go tactical. What are some things that Josh could bring home? When the bacon tonight, you know, like, 


 Brian Ayers
 Okay, well, yeah, it goes back to the easiest 25. Yeah, in terms of what you can do, the one of the I'm hit the two biggest ones and then we can dive tail into the smaller things is meat. For a lot of guys, I'm not sure what your dietary set up is, but for never in the history of human kind, have we been eating meat at this level? So, you've got to remember at one point in history, the president was saying, I think it was the thirties, a chicken in every pot. That's because they were coming out of the great depression. That was like, oh, aspirational, aged chicken. Now it's like a chicken at every meal. I used to eat 200 animals a month, 200 plus. We're talking about in the morning, eggs, sausage, eggs, there's two. You got a chicken sandwich and for lunch, and then, for wings and shrimp fried rice is four wings. 


 Brian Ayers
 And then how many shrimp that's there? So, we're over 10 and you just do that several days in a row. You have, you go to endless wing, happy hour, things like that. So, for guys who were like, either one don't believe and you're like, you're supposed to eat this much meat and it's like, that's never happened before. I'm not sure why we get there for them. In terms of, just cutting back because I get it, I was consuming all this meat and now I eat like maybe two animals a month. It was a process to get there. I used to be the uncle on the barbecue. I worked at McDonald's. I was flipping hamburgers. I mean, I have been around meat my entire life. Just recognizing that whenever you eat meat is causing inflammation into your body and once you're able to start reducing it, if you will, like I said, I'm going to, I'm not a chicken hugger, I'm more concerned with my deck than chickens. 


 Brian Ayers
 If my mother cooked something, I'll eat it. I'm not trying to stress myself because that's going to be caused another set of issues. I'll tell dads like, Hey, just go through and take one, take meat out of one meal, just start with, start there. Just take, we meet at one meal. The other thing is the second thing on that list, which is sleep. In terms of your sleep, that is everything we do during the day is a set up for sleep because sleep is the repair system is to repair time. That's the reason why your human growth hormone goes up. Your testosterone levels go up, the, your testosterone starts forming during REM sleep. That's the reason why you get a morning, Woody, you have four to five. That fifth one is typically that the morning erection. You have four erections while you're asleep four to five, and then the fifth ones, when you wake up. 


 Brian Ayers
 So, if you're eating meat, you actually reduce the amount of time that you have a resurrection during sleep and the size of that erection. So, and that's for the meat side. We're for the sleep side. If you get like four hours of sleep, your, the number of cancer cells go up and your immune system goes down. It's vitally important to get, when I say high quality sleep is, think of the earth. If you were out in nature, no electronics or anything like that, what would happen? It would start getting darker. It will start getting cooler and you lay down on earth. You're, when she was sleeping in his, in the cooler situation, you were sitting here watching the sun goes, going down and our bodies are already attuned to the sun going down. So it knows, oh yeah. It's time to go to sleep. You actually start preparing yourself or asleep. 


 Brian Ayers
 How you translate that into today's terms, it's like, okay, let's say you're going to sleep at nine o'clock, which is a good time. Some people go to 10, actually 10, but you start realizing, you start with turning down the lights, turning off all your electronics. You have your lights on and electronics on your brain is thinking like, oh, it's still daytime. It's not preparing to go to sleep. Yeah. Also from a stress level, when you go to sleep and you're thinking about a certain thing, you'll continue to thinking about it while you're asleep. You'll think about it when you wake up. If you're stressed out or why stress out your sleep. So go ahead and grab a book. That'll, just look at it and be like, okay, or just think of some things, or maybe you're listening to an audio book that's inspirational. That while you're asleep, you have less stress doing those. 


 Brian Ayers
 Those things will help improve your quality of sleep. Also don't sleep with any lights on, even the ambient lights and things like that. When I go to, whenever I go to sleep, I have a sleep mask on because I was, nearest city center. There are lights that come through the blinds also, typically people have their alarm clock lights on and all this stuff, the perennial glam is typically called your third eye. It is able to, you can close your eyes, right? Like I close my eyes right now. There's a lot of light kidding me. There's light coming through there and your brain is still receiving that information. So, and that happens with your third app, basically. That's where my third eye is. 


 Josh Wilson
 South of the border. My third eye. That's what you call a penis. That's another penis reference is the third. 


 Brian Ayers
 Go to. 


 Josh Wilson
 All right. No, it's all right. I should've been more clear on the question is tactically. Once we do get an erection, because we've been working with you're a coach and you're like, go Josh go. Right. I've got, the eating sleeping intermittent fast, and like, I'm on a roll. All right. Give us some tactical stuff of, cause you're a sex coach, right? Because sexual performance coach, what are some things we could do in the sheets that make us better? 


 Brian Ayers
 Sure. Okay. Let's go with priming the pump. For having sex and you're with your woman priming, the pump is actually just going slow, just moving in, out in, out, just almost dag on it. Boring. What you're doing is you're really exciting her. So that's what priming the pump. It was like for a lot of women, they'll want you to start speeding up, but Nope, don't fall for it. Just keep don't fall for it. Keep using, keep using your own pattern. What is doing is creating the sensation. I mean, if she's stressed out and she's like, I don't have five minutes, that's one thing. If you're, if you're enjoying yourself, you have the time and everything of course do priming the pump also sorta alluded to this earlier in terms of understanding what a G-spot is. Basically insert your finger into the penis finger, into the, that's not a good woman at all. 


 Brian Ayers
 Don't ever do that. In such a finger into the vagina and from the top and do a come here, come here, type of movement. That stimulating the G-spot, which is basically a clump of nerve endings right there. You're doing that, you're actually in gorging that is getting filled with blood. Once you're inside of her, you're actually, it's more stimulation for her other things you can do, just put a foot s***s and giggles, get yourself, submit. Now mind you meant if you're not, if you are at an eight, nine or 10 in the mint, won't the sugar from the mint. One affect your erection. You know, if you're eating around, yeah. Pop that in your mouth as an extra level of sensation to that. She can do the exact same thing to her, to you. It go and it won't affect her the same way that affects you in terms of that sugar in there. 


 Brian Ayers
 So yeah. Get more sensation in there and let me see. Yeah. In terms of just making her feel more of you. She's on top and she's riding grab the cheeks, squeeze them together, squeeze them to you. That adds more pressure. Also recognize that women can take 10 times more pain than men. Yes. Whenever a woman says, well, you couldn't give birth to a child. I mean, you damn right. I can't get, I don't have the estrogen. That's what estrogen does is it allows women to tell, have more pain. That's the reason why, if a man has cancer, he's like, okay, that was painful enough. I'm outta here. Women has cancers. Like I need to be here for the grandkids. She's run off for another six years. So yeah. In terms of like, some women that you have to find out, communications is key, but like a little roughness to it because they can handle it. 


 Brian Ayers
 Personally, if somebody was smacking me, I'd be, I turn around and smack him right back, swiping on your hair. So really you should. 


 Josh Wilson
 Sign this, like sign this agreement. 


 Brian Ayers
 Let me get you on video. Can you go ahead and say that statement again? So, 


 Josh Wilson
 Geez. In your work and let's say you and I are hanging out in 20 years from now or something and we're looking back over our life and we go, we're sitting on a rocking chair chat and we're like, we did it like what's a milestone or what's a, what's something that you're working towards. That that's a, that you could go, man. I, I accomplished it. In this field, in this business and what you're doing, 


 Brian Ayers
 Oh, in this field. Oh sure. Well, one just a personal, I just want to get to a 10. I mean, I came up with a scale and I'm at a eight, nine, but at my age being a 10 means that I have to do, drop a bunch more weight and it's like, I would need to be a 25 year old athlete, compete against a 25 year old athlete. In terms of what we're looking to do with the coaching side of things is actually get this into, get you, just get this out there, period. Not only just me doing the coaching, we creating a coaching system so that other people can do the coaching themselves. Because once again, by the year 2030, if half of them, even half of men can't procreate, then we are running into a huge problem globally. That's something that Elon Musk alluded to in terms of, he was saying that, that's an issue for people who are trying to run businesses. 


 Brian Ayers
 It's like, yeah, in the next 10 years, you're going to start running out of customers. That's something that I want to make sure that, my goal for this first phase of the training is to get 10,000 men understanding that easiest 25 program, which by the way, is a game. For each those five areas, you score yourself daily. So, so you set your goal. I feel like that goal was to, I'm going to cut out one meat meal in a day, I'm going to get more sleep. I'm going to, do a certain type of exercise, whatever your goals are for each five categories, including do intermittent fasting. In terms of soul, you're doing meditation and deep breathing, things like that, score yourself in on, in each one of those areas with fire points. If you're hitting 25, you're on an upward spiral. If you're like doing, you get a 15, there's like, you're, it's maintaining the problem with maintaining over a longer period of time is that you're aging at the same time. 


 Brian Ayers
 Your results are starting going down, starting to go down. If you were a zero five or 10, you need to stop immediately because you're gonna it's just going to continue to happen. That downward spiral is vicious. The older you are actually have a graph showing, the wall is typically at 50, it could be 50 or 55 where basically D if you're not doing the things I'm talking about is harder to it's like going up a hill and climbing a wall in terms of getting back to your eight or skipping eight, six, or seven to eight, nine or 10, you have to, don't wait in terms of taking care of your health. And that was easy. It's, it's part of our routine. That's the reason for, being able to score yourself, you can start tracking and you can start seeing your successes. It's like, oh man, I wasn't, you can start seeing why, one day I was, everything was great. 


 Brian Ayers
 The next day, it wasn't. It was like, well, what happened in between? Oh yeah, well, I didn't go to the gym. I was stressed out and I had that beer and I, oh, well, yeah. That's the reason why, one day you were tearing it up the next day, you're crying about it. Not sure what happened. Yeah. 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. Uncle beast there's beers, the b***r killer. Right. So, so, and that's because as testosterone and alcohol in itself, 


 Brian Ayers
 Other estrogen, 


 Josh Wilson
 What did I say? 


 Brian Ayers
 You said testosterone, estrogen, 


 Josh Wilson
 Estrogen, estrogen. So, man, this is cool. I really appreciate this conversation. Let's give a shout out to your YouTube and how men can find you. 


 Brian Ayers
 Okay? Sure. Just go to youtube.com. Bachelors Brian EHRs 23. That's B R I N a Y E R S 23, like Jordan or James. If you want to find out more about African fly, go to African flag.com. We have a ton of information on there about the product and yeah, you can find out also out about coaching and all that good stuff on there. And. 


 Josh Wilson
 African fly.com. That's how people could connect with you and buy some product, get your coaching. That's a good place to go. 


 Brian Ayers
 There we go. Yes. And be. 


 Josh Wilson
 Right on, right on during this interview, there's probably a question I should have asked you or a topic that we should have covered that I screwed up and did not, ask what is that? 


 Brian Ayers
 Let me see. We covered the ladies. We covered the guys. Yeah. The work. This is one thing, we sorta alluded to it, but yeah, I need for you guys to get serious. I'm doing the coaching part right now. Get serious about your health. This is not a game it starts with. It seems okay. I've talked to enough guys to realize is once you hit a certain point, it becomes increasingly hard to get back and your relationship can suffer immensely for that. Once again, it becomes harder to have that conversation with your woman about things not working after it's been a while of networking. If you have that conversation ahead of time and letting her know like, Hey, what, I need to cut back or this, can you help me out? You know, don't go too. I know I used to. I told you to go to the store and get me those beers. 


 Brian Ayers
 Now I realize that doesn't work for me. If I say that, remind me that we'll be having sex tonight after those beers. And, get that help, focus in, don't take it lightly. It's your health it's. Yeah. Also you don't want to get into a position where everybody else around you is having erections and you're not because it gets weird. 


 Josh Wilson
 Yeah. If you're in a, if you're the only one without interaction and in a room, you're in a weird room, by the way. 


 Brian Ayers
 Yeah. It's also that thing of like, the guy is sitting there, everyone could tell his line. It's like, yeah, yeah. Last night. Yeah. I tore up. 


 Josh Wilson
 It's like the 40 year old Virgin, a scene where he's like, yeah, it was like a sandbag and I felt her boobs. 


 Brian Ayers
 Yeah. We know, we know, we see you drinking that beer. 


 Josh Wilson
 So this is so funny. If guys in the audience, if you are, if you need some help as always reach out to our coach, right. Reach out to our guests and reach out to them and just say, Hey, I could do some help, man. Like humility is such a great way to grow. I want to challenge you this, share this with a few of your, your guy friends. I don't know if if they have b****s or not, but like, Hey, you probably don't have b****s. Here you go here, listen to this. Guys, man, as always reach out to our guests. If you're, I'd love to hear your feedback on this episode. After, after listening to this, like what, what are some questions that I should have asked Brian, or that you had popped in your brain? Sending out a note, send those over to me, head on over to uncensored advice for men.com. 


 Josh Wilson
 Fill out a quick form. What questions should I have asked, or that popped up in your brain? And, and maybe if you guys have some advice that you'd like to share with guys, same place, uncensored advice for men.com, fill out a quick form. Maybe it gets you on the show next, but as all, always, always reach out to our guests, say thanks. If you need that help ask for help. Brian. Thanks for coming on the show. Uncle B. I appreciate you. Hope you have a wonderful day dudes. We'll talk to you all on the next episode. Hang in there. I want to chat with you. Follow up guys. 



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Brian Ayers

Sexual Performance Coach

Brian “Uncle B” Ayers is a men’s sexual performance coach with over 22 years
of experience. His research into men’s sexual health lead him to create the
Men’s Sexual Performance Scale and the revolutionary ESEIS 25 sexual health
program along with 2 books, How To Be A Better Lover In 30 Days or Less and
Go Hard.
Brian started his coaching journey as the
performance coach for African Fly, the liquid
aphrodisiac. After talking with 1000’s of
men he noted that some would have success
with African Fly while others would not. The
difference was in what they were doing to
supplement the supplement.
In 2019, Brian started sharing his knowledge on YouTube. He now has over
150k subscribers with 8.5 million minutes of watch time. He connects with
people by showing an easy way to build lifelong health without relying on
medications. He focuses on helping people build stronger relationships by
having superior health for a fulfilling sex life. Brian keeps the show funny,
engaging and very serious…like an Uncle is supposed to. He brings that same
energy to interviews as well.