July 29, 2020

Adoption But What If I Dont Love The Kid?

Adoption But What If I Dont Love The Kid?

Susan David is an adoptive mom -- nearly 30 years now -- to now 3 adultchildren, an adoption coach and co-founder of Growing Intentional FamiliesTogether or GIFT Family Services, a coaching firm that helps familiessucceed in being the happiest, healthiest adoptive family that they can bebefore, during, and after adoption.What is the one main key point you need to share with the audience of mentoday on this show? (we only have 30 minutes) *Adoption definitely adds another layer to starting a family and toparenting that would not otherwise be there with a biological family. Butonce you've resolved to create your family in that way, there is no reasonwhy it cannot be successful. Understanding what you and your partner wantto see in your family, doing the work to make it happen, and having a fullcommitment to keep learning as you go along the adoption journey, there isno reason why it cannot be a joyful, wonderful experience.Share examples of questions you like to be asked about this topic *My wife really wants to adopt but I don’t.I am not sure about adoption. Sounds like it’s unethical, illegal, anddamaging with the potential for dire results.We feel totally selfish for wanting to adopt a newborn through a privateadoption agency or attorney when so many children are aging out in fostercare.I am totally confused -- why would I want to pay hefty fees and wait onlong lists to go private?I can’t see myself raising somebody else’s kid.Doesn’t look like me, won’t have the same talent and attributes as me …it’s a total crap shoot.I don’t want to raise a child where I have no idea of the medicalbackground. And from what I’ve heard, what info you do get is often sparse.It could reak havoc on our family to have a child who ends up needing carebeyond what we can afford.Both of our families are against us adopting, …I don’t want to adopt a kid who is of another race and/or culture …Great, not only do I have to deal with us raising a kid, I’ll haveanother whole family involved with an open adoption! How is that gonna’work?It seems hard enough to raise a child that is from your own blood, Idon’t see how I can make the sacrifices for a child that is not really mine.What links would you like to share with the audience? Ex: Web, email,LinkedIn, etc *website: www.giftfamilyservices.comContact Us at giftcoach@giftfamilyservices.comListen to our podcast each month: The Essentials of adoption-attunedParenting Podcast available on i-tunes, stitcher, i-heart radioConnect with us on our FB Page Growing Intentional Families TogetherAnd we are on LinkedIn at GIFT Family ServicesSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/uafm)